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He still wants his ex.?

I'm five months pregnant, I want a life with this man. He broke up with his gf of 7 years for me. He still lives with her, but only because I live with my father (I take care of him). My bf wants to keep tabs on his ex girlfriend. He gets really jealous when she goes out or hangs out with men. Its driving me insane! I understand that he still cares about her but I think he takes it too far. I'd like to know if I should just step back and let him figure things out. He says he wants me but he wants her too. She has a history of cheating on him and lying to him. I do not. He and I dated before they got together but things didn't work out. We were too young. Now we're trying again. I know what I want... I'm thinking about stepping back and waiting for him. I was just wondering about anyones opinions. If you have any questions, or need more details, just ask.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    so he loves her and nails you. what was the question again?

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    he lives with the woman he wants to be with? Hmm I have a gut feeling he IS with her and now you are going to "step back" and WAIT, what in the hell is wrong with you!? This man is with another woman and you are taking care of him, yeah probably her too. I'm curious to know if you have ever taken a trip over there while she was there. If not you should. You may find something a little surprising to you but then again maybe not. My only advice is for you to get your pride and maybe even your backbone back from whatever closet or garbage you placed it in, dust it off and start using it! Women such as yourself are the reason men cheat...over half the women in this world allow it to happen and go without punishment.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It seems that he still wants his ex but selfishly, he's still holding you too..

    You might want to rethink about current relationship, is he worth it?

    I had similar experience with you but then I decided to leave my boyfriend.. I know if I stayed on, it would be like a devil's circle, going on and on never ends and drives me insane..

    I think he doesn't respect you, he should be putting all of his time and effort for you only, not for his ex..

    A man can't put two feet on two boats, or he will get sink..

    Ask him to choose between you and his ex.. if he can't decide then you should move on and find other good man..

    Good luck..

  • 1 decade ago

    First of all Donot worry and be happy. Life and time not move as you want. You realise it cooly.You just look for solution without devoting more time to worry. You 1st leave worrying more u worry more u leave him.

    You just be casual withyour husband/boy friend. Give some time to your self to decorate I mean make up. Do not become poor helpless wife. Just care more your self. Donot be needy of his love. Wear better cloths I mean tempt him toward yourself. But control yourself just simply donot go in his hand. Have passence then see the result. "Best Of Luck"

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    1 decade ago

    Is sounds as though you are making a great deal of excuses for him. If he was not with her, he would not be living with her. He is a gown man and should have his own residence. He is playing both of you, having his cake and eating it to. You need ot figure out what you want to do with your life and the life of this unborn child. And stop making excuses for him. They are still together, he is not going to leave her and he is going to be with you as long as you allow him to be. This is very sad. And you say he left her for you, well, what did you expect to happen. Take the blinders off your eyes and see it for what it is. He is with both of you at his convenience. Don't make anymore babies with this man. Concentrate on a education so you are able to support yourself and this child. He surely is not going to do it. I would cut my self loose from him and this drama and move on and make a decent life for the baby. God bless****

  • 1 decade ago

    I would say step WAY back and get out of his life, it will be nothing but misery for you, him wanting 2 women at one time is not going to work, if he truly loved you he would not be living with his Ex, that is for sure.. He wants it both ways and he can not have it that way.. Get away from him.. he is no good for you and the baby, but make sure you get it set up for him to pay for the baby !! it is his and he should pay for it..

  • 1 decade ago

    look, ur pregnant. so drag him by the ears into counselling NOW.

    hes got a big hang up on that girl that treats him like garbage. Make SURE you give him what he needs and make it snappy and slap him around a bit if you have to, you got something coming and you deserve ALL of his spare attention now.

  • 1 decade ago

    for one thing he's still into this younglady. don't believe what he's telling you.......just because you are pregnant does not mean that he belongs to you....now he feels trapped by you and that does not mean that the deal is sealed.....yes he is still inlove with his ex you know as well as anyone else that when you break up with someone that does not mean that the relationship is completely over with don't believe everything that he tells you. because you are in a venerable situation he's trying to spare your feelings. and you If he's still living with her then it's not over by a long shot.....Does she know that you are pregnant with his child..........I doubt it boo don't believe everything that he tells you........you've gotten yourself in a situation that's gonna bring turmoil to you for a long time to come I wish you the best of luck because you are gonna need it may god bless you and your unborn child, he'not gonna give up the lady he;s with they are still together.........believe that

  • 1 decade ago

    Let him have her and never take him back again. You deserve much better. If he does this to her, he'll just keep doing it to you. In fact he is already.

  • 1 decade ago

    what did you expect ??? when you take a man or woman from someone else then do you expect them to stay faithful to you. you say she cheated on him but he left her for you. it spells trouble in most cases.

    good luck

    Make it your new years resolution to make life better for some one less fortunate.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're right step back and if you can move on don't settle for lifetime of wishy washy feelings

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