I'm Wicca and my mother (who's Cristian based) dose not know how sould i tell her?

well i`m a day late . But you could have given her a "happy winter solstice" card.

not pagan however very familiar with Christianity. DON'T TELL HER!!! The Christian religion is very hostile towards even other Abrahamic religions, trust me paganism is NOT going to go over well. Remember- these are the people who burned witches and led crusades. The Christian belief (despite the number of pagan influences they have) does not jibe well with paganism.

However, if she is Irish, African or Norse descent she might be more open (as these cultures have a history of integrating more fluid beliefs into their Christianity, so the only real issue will be that you don't think Jesus is your savior, not that you're worshiping the devil)

However, you know your mom best so if you think telling her is a good idea, just go for it. Have a nice lunch, and have some pamphlets on what Wicca really is, contrary to popular misconceptions. Assure her you're not in a cult. And be careful in how you explain why Christianity wasn't working for you

You might begin with asking her what she thinks of all these people who are becoming Pagan. Show her ReligiousTolerance.org and try to get her asking questions about it. Mention a few of your Pagan friends and tell her what you like about the religion. Then tell her that you've been studying it, and you feel very at home with Wicca. Go slowly and give her time to get used to the idea. If she freaks out when you even mention Paganism, maybe you should wait until a less stressful time of year.

I think it's really something that only you can answer. We don't know your mom, and we don't know how she would react. I've had tons of friends who told their families and were not only accepted, but embraced. I've also had friends who were disowned for telling.

Whenever I'm asked this question, I give the following advice:

First, ask yourself WHY you want to share this. Whom will it serve?

Then, ask yourself if you are prepared for the worst.. what if you are rejected and disowned? Can you handle that?

There are many christians who are very accepting of others' spiritual paths.. is your mother one of these people? If not, how much harm will it cause her to tell her? Remember, in Wicca, the tenet is to harm none.. this not only includes her but you.

What good will come from this if you tell her?

Just a few things to think about..

Many blessings on your path..

Kallan

I wonder why you would only want an answer from other pagans. Someone from another faith could provide valuable insight as well. For example, even though I'm christian, I can tell you, it's not easy to explain your beliefs to someone who does not share them. So, here's my recommendation. Take your mother out to some public place, maybe for a nice lunch. Only after you're done eating and things are peaceful between you do you explain yourself. And try not to be contradictory either. Try this...Mom, I have something to tell you that may sound odd but I hope you'll understand. I'm Wicca. I have always liked the baskets and chairs and furniture and that's how I want to live my life. You'll do great.

I still haven't told my mom, honestly. She was a church secretary for 20 years and her brother is a retired minister. She and my Aunt head up the Pastor-Parish relations committee at their church. It really wouldn't go over well.

I suppose if I do ever tell her (that's a big if - I really don't know as she'd understand Wicca) it will be by giving her "When Someone You Love Is Wiccan" for her birthday.

Happy Solstice!

)O(

Well tell her this way.

God gave Moses the Law.

The Grace of God was given to Jesus and his followers

The Q'uran was given to Muhammed by God.

God teaches people spiritual truths according to their level of understanding.

You know that Christianity is the right path for you, and I do not feel comfortable in Christianity at all because I am asked to believe things that are true that my logic and reason tells me cannot be true.

I have found another path that answers my spiritual questions; so I will be following the path that my heart leads me to follow.

In reality; there is only one religion. We all acknowledge a power higher than ourselves; we just use different names and acknowledge this higher power in different ways

First and foremost you're a human being, just like the 6 billion rest of us. You are no different; have no special power, can do NOTHING I or anyone else couldn't do.

Second, instead of playing in the dark and running around dressed in black, pay more attention in school; learn how to spell and the proper use of punctuation, otherwise you come off sounding like a retard.

Third, if you really believe your a witch or warlock, you've fallen for one of the classic con games of all time.

Your parents will see this as a threat. As conservative christians they see wiccan = witch = enemy of god. Try to minimize the threat as much as possible.

When you talk to mom, be very loving. Tell her "I love you" a lot and remind her that you respect her. Also, try to go slowly. Don't just blurt out, "I'm a wiccan" describe two or three of your beliefs without "labeling" them. This won't seem as threatening to her, yet you can still be honest about what you believe. Tell her what you just told us "I've believed this way for years and it doesn't change my lifestyle, my values or what I feel about my family."

Also, it might help to...tell her "I know you respect me mom and would never FORCE your beliefs on me." Even if its not true, excatly, I found that when I kept telling my parents that they respected me, they actually turned around and started ... respecting me.

At your age, I wouldn't "hide" what you believe anymore. There's nothing to be ashamed of - why should you? On the other hand, "going slowly" as you come out of the wiccan closet will be easiest on your relationship.

Best wishes to you

well one of the elements of the witches triangle is to be silent. tradition holds that you do not tell anyone you are a pagan or a witch. to be silent is to be wise. the time will come when she finds out on her own. and when that time comes be ready to explain it to her. but if you really want to tell her get this book it is great i used it to help my partner when she found out who i was its called christians vs. pagans. it doesnt sound like a book that would be somthing to help christians understand our religion but it is. there are many other books out there that explain our religion to others just find one and read it with her. leave it on the counter or give it to her. explain that this is your choice be nice about it dont bash her religion or tell her she is wrong just explain that christianity is no tthe religions for you and why its not. many understand and will be suportive but there are the few that are not so be prepared for that also. good luck

blessed be

)O(

I don't really see the need to voice what one's religion. Better to show them through your actions. Through time, you could discuss various views one at a time---like a belief in more than one deity, reincarnation, absence of absolute good/bad, mythology concerning your deities, etc. Many times it isn't necessarily the tenets of a religion that people don't care for but the name of that religion that causes them to imagine things about it.

I don't lie about my religion but I also don't volunteer unsolicited information. In general conversations whenever issues come up, I express my views like anyone else.