Why do grown adult children not often call or email a decent, kind father who is divorced from their mother?

The door swings both ways. Also keep in mind if they are grown, depending on their ages, they may be busy with their own personal issues. Say if they are in their twenties, they may be partying with their friends and are just having a good time. They are kind of selfish at this age, and don't think about calling and emailing. It isn't that they hold resentment towards you, they probably don't call or email their Mom either at this age. Don't take it personally. When they really mature, they will come around again!

Hope this helps!

Hello there. There are alot of reasons why that could happen. Could depend on your relationship with them before hand. "how they see it, not how you see it". So it would not help to find out just how they seen your relationship. Also if the former spouse is hurting due to the divorce, this could also contribute to the actions of the grown children. Why you split up and so forth, could play a factor. Then there could just be the reason that these grown children have a busy life, as all of us do, and just do not make time to do the things that are family orientated, that we should do. Life runs away with us sometimes, and we forget the important things, and just do the things we must do unfortunately. I think instead of asking this question online, maybe you should be asking your children this question. Lack of communication never accomplished anything, it only makes matters worse, and allows the imagination to run wild. Sincerely Miss Dee.

Maybe there is more to the story. Maybe the father isn't as kind and decent as he'd have people believe. Maybe this father did something terrible that made the children resentful. Maybe this father cheated on the wife and that is why they're divorced.

Who can answer this without all the details?

Here's a good example for you-I have abrother who is a very hard working-kind and loving man--excellent provider for his family--and when he got divorced several years ago-his ex-wife literally poisoned his two children against him. To point that they no longer wanted contact with him--for many years. His daughter-who the oldest--still doesn't. His son--now is just coming and he is 24 years old and is married with his first grandchild. They have their ups and downs--but are beginning to establish a relationship

of sorts--slowly over the last few years and his son is now finding that his da--my brother-is not the monster that his mother has made him out to be all these years.

So, it may be that it take alot of time for your children to come around for you--they will one day want to know you--if not--it is their loss-which also hurts you in the process--I know--I watched it happen to my brother. Blessings-and I am sorry for you--sir.

There could be so much involved in this....my parents were divorced after 25 yrs of marriage and all I heard is that our Dad didn't want anything to do with us. It took a couple of years and then a couple of visits to my Dad to realize that it wasn't true....it was part of my mothers anger at my Dad. It was also very awkward at first to be around my Dad after the divorce. You are the parent....you should make the first move. If my Dad hadn't continued to try and get in touch with me I wouldn't have a relationship with him today. You should call your kids, leave messages, tell them how important they are to you....they need to know this from you.I wish you well.

This is common among the younger generation. They usually don't care at all about the parents until they want something from the parents.

All my adult children are like this from my previous marriage, and my adult step-children are like this with me and their real parents.

They just don't care. make the first move, and keep trying maybe eventually they will respond.

maybe they are being decent and kind to their father divorce can be like bashing their mom so you might have to build their trust

No, your children should call and wish you a happy mother's day . . . your not HIS mother.

Why don't you make the first move and call them; invite them to your home, and events that go on in your life.

Well... maybe your children are just selfish and lazy. Sorry to say that.