what goes in ur mind if a girl says t u that she feels confortable around u , that she can be herself..??

in my opinion she is in a confused state right now... torn between two guys that she likes.... of course you cant ignore the relationship that she has w/ her boyfriend and just think that she'll jump into your arms...

first of all she hooked up with you even when she was in a relationship... so when you guys do decide to get together you'll be constantly looking over your shoulder if she's doing the same thing, hooking up with someone else. and she'll probably think the same thing bout you down the road. (trust is a big issue in a relationship) if you guys can get over this then good for you.

right now, i have to say is be a friend. listen to her, talk to her about what she's going through. let her choose who she wants to be with. dont go advertising yourself to her as the "better man" because being her friend now is more important than trying to be her boyfriend...

and when she does decide, all you can hope for is that she sees that she's better off with you.

Well it seems to me that she only thinks of you as a friend, because she feels comfortable around you and that she can be herself. I think her relationship with her boy friend couldn't have been that good if they were both willing to cheat on each other. I think maybe she just thinks of you as a friend. Right now I would just give her space to let her work things out in her mind, if she wanted your help she probably call you or talk to you about it and that is when you can comfort her.

So I suggest you leave her alone for awhile if she is giving you the cold sholder until she comes to you. When she does come to you about anything maybe she will be more free to talk about it. Because if you do try to talk to her now while she is giving you the cold shoulder you could be bothering her and essentially driving her away from you.

If she asked her bf for a break to think things over she probably needs a break from you as well so she can think clearly. Give her space and let her think things through so she can make the decision that's right for her without any pressure. You may not like the results but then again maybe you will. But whatever her decision is it will be made with a level head and less heartbreak for everyone involved. Hang in there!

well from what you said yall are best friends and both of you can be yourself around one another. But you did kinda help her cheat...I'm not saying that its your fault at all it takes 2 to tango baby. but she's prob thinking that you was with her while she had a bf and it didn't seem to bother you so what makes her think that you wouldn't do that to her? but she just might be confused. talk to her about it if you really care about her..

I wish you the best of luck

from what you are saying..at first she sounded confused between you and her b/f.... I think she's sounds honest about feeling comfortable around you, which in my view, means she's hinting around to be more than friends with you.. Best thing to do is to be open to her as she has with you and ask her if her intentions are more than just being friends...

I'd take a grammar lesson.

And then I'd leave it alone, because she needs space after a breakup. Maybe she doesn't want to see you because she thinks your fling ruined her relationship. Maybe she doesn't want to see you because she doesn't want to see anyone. Maybe she doesn't want to see you because she thinks she'll be tempted to "cheat" on her boyfriend again. Maybe she doesn't want to see you because she thinks you'll be the rebound boyfriend after her breakup.

The possiblities are endless, so just try to relax about it until she is ready to talk.

Sounds like she does like you.. but that could mean " FRIEND ZONE " which = Crap Place to Be!... But it sounds to me like she still has feelings for whats his name and doesnt really know how to end the whole situation... so just give her time.. be there for her and when she realizes that other guy is a jerk... you'll be there for her to go to...