is this cheating Older people Please?

It's a form of cheating .... emotional cheating like this is the start of real life cheating ... If these ladies/ friends are nothing to worry about why all the hiding and WHY does he have to meet them in "real life" If it's just for talk ... he can talk all he wants on line.

You say you busted him once already ... What was he saying to you when he planned your offline lunch ???? What more info do you need? Is this the type of behavior you can deal with in a relationship?? If it is find some way to make peace in your heart with the FACT that he likes to chat with lady friends on line and meet them out sometimes. Does it mean he's bedding too ??? Maybe not but really what is he looking for from them ???

You are upset and obviously worrying a lot about his behavior. It is taking up a lot your mental energy and giving you grief ....is he worth it ??? You have explained your past issues to him right? He is aware that his behavior stresses you right??? Think about why you would want to continue with a person that is aware their behavior cause you such pain.

I once heard a therapist on the radio ask a caller with similar issues this question: If you hit the lottery right now would you stay with him or go ??? I know it's not a money thing but really what's keeping you in such a place ??? You have lived in this place in the past do you really want to live with it again?

You say he is a new boyfriend ... you have been given a break really if you think about ...you haven't had to waste years of your life to find out that he has these issues....The ball is in your court to decide if you want to waste your time on such a man.

Speaking from experience...he is probably cheating. My ex-husband did the same thing. He would come home from work, get on the computer, and stay on the computer until all odd hours of the morning. Finally when he decided to take a trip to Canada....I had had enough. If your bf truly has nothing to hide from you then he would be open with you about who he is talking to and what is really going on. The fact that he met someone, and it ended up being you, leads me to believe that wasn't the first time he had met someone. Trust is built on honesty & obviously he isn't being honest, so how can you trust him?

Sounds like he is cheating or at the very least planning on it, especially if he tried asking someone out to lunch (eventhough it turned out to be you). When someone is hiding something like that it is a sign that they know that they are doing something wrong and you need to put a stop to this. Do you really want to waste any more time with this guy who is obviously not looking for a seroius committed relationship. He is old enough to know better and will probably never change. Good luck!

It all sounds very strange. You should do the same - say you are chatting to men in chat rooms or whatever and see what he says. Make sure you close down all the windows when he comes into the room where you are on the pc like he does. You could also get a pc spy programe to find out exactly what he says to these girls - that might be the answer...

well this definitely is something serious. i know it must be making u uncomfortable. perhaps he may be cheating on you, remember, this is only a guess. sometimes he may be thinking that his freindship with other girls may offend you. but the fact that he is always logged on to IM, needs serious consideration. the best thnig will be to talk to him abt it. you should voice your fears and doubts. as you are not sure of him cheating on you, you should not accuse him. Tell him calmly, but firmly that this secret action of his is disturbing you, also tell him that as long it is just friendship and nothing else, you dont mind him associating with other girls. tell him that his friendship with others should never come between you and your bf. All the best

i'm unsure punishment will truly practice him that this alteration into incorrect. specific, of direction you could desire to punish him, yet a huge-unfold punishment, which contain grounding, won't practice him something approximately why that's misguided to cheat. i think of you may desire to sit down down him down and ask him why he cheated and then have him write an apology to the instructor, adressing why it replace into incorrect of him to cheat and what he will do interior the destiny (learn for tests) so as that he does not might desire to cheat. Then, i might circulate in WITH him to furnish the instructor the letter. once you're making an excellent deal out of it this time, it in all probability won't ensue lower back.

If you should plan on marrying this man, realize that your love should only revolve around each other, no one else, not even same sex friends...especially when he has a desire to meet up with new women ONLINE.

Don't settle for someone who keeps secrets. That will be one hell of a life...and regrets.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!! The way he is doing it I would considerate cheating. And the fact that he asked you out to lunch and did not know that it was you, that should answer the question for you. Dump him. There are real, honest men out there. You should find someone who makes you happy and that you can TRUST!!!

I'm 39, male. If he feels he has to hide stuff from you, something is definitely up. Talk to him. See if he has cybersex, ask if he'd be allright with you meeting someone he's talking to over the internet.

The fact that he's willing to date (but found you instead) might be an indication that there's something wrong...

Sounds like you have a cheater. Since you caught him last year he prolly is doing more to hide it. I would say give him a ultimatium and tell him to get truthful and straighten up and treat you right or toss him and his clothes on the lawn and tell him to IM someone to come get him. (oh wait he can't IM somone from the lawn, LOL)