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MEN: Why the cold shoulder?

Please please answer this for us women. I share children with my Ex and when he's single...he's genuine, nice, and easy to get along. BUT when he gets a new girlfriend, he's cold, distant, hard to get along with and somewhat arrogant. (For those of you wondering....No I haven't done anything to provoke him.) WWHHHYYYYY is this? Please shed some light or I'm going to have to hurt him!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    "Love the one you're with."

    Some men need to focus their attention on only a few people at a time. Surely you can't expect him to be as attentive to you when someone else has expectations that he be primarily attentive to her.

    Have you considered that perhaps the new girlfriend sometimes might REQUIRE such behavior to overcome her own insecurity, jealousy, etc?

    At this point, I suggest telling him how you feel using "I" statements like, "When you act coldly to me, I feel like . . . " instead of "You're so [x]." If he doesn't change or improve things as a result, you're stuck with his personality, unfortunately.

    Good luck!

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