Why do some people find it hard to look into the eyes of people?

I can't speak for all situations, but in some instances the cause is cultural. In the Hispanic and Oriental cultures, the act of not looking into someone's eyes while speaking to them is a sign of respect and in some cases submission.

It is considered a European cultural custom to speak to another person's face/eyes. I is normal for us to do this, but other cultures can see that as being too agressive in conversations.

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sometimes it's a dominance thing...there is a lot of energy that comes through the eyes and some people feel threatened or intimidaed by it *like if you stair at a dog it will, most of the times, back/lay down*

there are some that feel it an intrusion to stair into another's eyes...the whole "eyes are dorways to the soul" thing

other times they might have something to hide or are trying to pull a "fast one" and feel that looking into someone's eyes will help reveal their intentions...which also works in reverse...they don't want to know if people are lying to them so they don't look in an attempt to shield *if any* this...

in most cases though it is an underlying confidence issue :(

i don't know.

i realised one day when i was wearing sunglases that i was looking into other peoples eyes a lot more than when i was not.

probably cause when i was wearing sunglases, people would look at the area of my eyes but were not looking directly at the centre of my focus.

without sunglases, if some one is looking directly in my eyes i end up thinking more about them lookin into my eyes than about the thing we are talking about. then i look away and get upset that i am not maintaining eye contact and look back with a determination to maintain eye contact rather than thinking about what were are discussing.

i find it easier to look in the eyes of someone with dark eyes. bright blues and green colours distract me cause i start examinng all the intracasies of the eye and forget to listen to their words.

Some people look dead into my eyes and dont even flinch or look around me and that makes me a bit uncomfortable cause its like their are staring.

is this any help?

You can tell a lot through someone's eyes and it can make some uncomfortable. It may seem too personal even if the people are close. Some just feel that people can know too much when their eyes are totally exposed.

Because they are hiding something, or maybe they are guilty. Whatever the reason, if a person cannot look at you straight into the eyes, it means they are at a "weaker" or more vulnerable position, and that they do not want you to find out something about them.

usually it is a confidence issue.

in the case of people we are attarcted to, it is again a confidence isuue: our attraction will show and we don't want the other to know, or at least know the extent of the attraction. because we think it will put us at a disadvantage, or we feel silly, embarassed, not sure feelings are reciprocated, etc.

so it is a question of confidence or lack of. try it and see.

if its towards someone you are attracted to its an issue of do you want to "tell" that person you are interested. The eyes cannot lie.

Sometimes people hve eyes where one points this way <------- and the other eye points that way ------->

It makes it tough to look people like that directly in the eyes.

its not hard for me