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Misty Eyes
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Misty Eyes asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Dating a guy with a child. Your thoughts.?

There's this guy I work with. I just found out today he's got a huge crush on me. At first I was interested (he seems like a nice enough guy and he's very, very shy), but found out he has a kid.

Now, I love kids and want kids one day, but I don't want to date a guy with a kid. Selfish, I know. When I said I wouldn't date him because he has a kid he called me "shallow." I've never been called shallow in my life. It's just my preference to not date a guy with kids or an ex-wife.

Another coworker told me I crushed this guy and he was depressed for the rest of his shift.

What would you do in this situation? Should I give him a chance or stick to my guns?

What would you do in this situation.

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  • Robin H
    1 decade ago
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    If you don't want to date a man with a child, then stick to your guns. The child is a part of him, and if you aren't ready to have that as part of your life, then don't start dating him. If it didn't work into a relationship, there would be 3 people who might be hurt, not just 2. If you did date him, that is saying you accept his child too......so think carefully before you make a decision like that.

  • babybluesblondee
    1 decade ago

    Stick to your guns! I have kids and my friend is dating a guy that has kids. I can tell you it is not just the fact he has a kid, there is alot of work behind that. Since he has a child you need to be ready to deal with all the problems that come with that. If you chose get ready for the ride. It is not easy to say the least.

  • hotmama
    1 decade ago

    I am married with five children. If I were in his shoes I think I would be a little upset too. Put yourself in his shoes for a minute. How would you feel if you had a child and couldn't get a man to take you out? Children are a beautiful thing. If there is a possibility of a serious relationship with this guy, then think about it. You can't go into a relationship with someone and not be willing to accept his child(ren). I think he deserves a chance. He's probably lonely.

  • D R
    1 decade ago

    i now have a child, and before i had a child i had dated women who had a child, you may lose out on a very good person because of it. if there are no other reasons give the guy a chance.

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  • Hayseedless
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Stick to your guns; But next time you could be a little LESS harsh. Sometimes pure honesty is NOT the best policy.

  • Katherine
    1 decade ago

    well if it was my situation i would at least give him a shot..let him take you out for a date and on that date if you feel comfortable than just accept him...and if you still feel uncomfortable that he has a kid..well...might as well tell him honestly and hope to stay good friends..but it doesnt hurt to at least try..:]

  • shanakon
    1 decade ago

    meet with the kid, the kid might grow on u, if that fails go with the guy thats crushing u, if that fails too then get another job ahahaha just kidding

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