My daughter is somewhat overweight and of a mixed race please help!!!!!!!!!!?

If certain girls are repeatedly calling her names and destroying her property, you can coax the school adminstrators into action by threatening harassment charges against the offending students. It is generally illegal for them to allow such harassment and bullying to go on, and the threat of legal action might persuade these pathetic administrators to do what they are supposed to be doing, anyway.

You might also try to schedule conferences jointly with the parents of the girls who are harassing your daughter and school administrators. Failing that, I would try to speak reasonably with their parents by contacting them through a school directory.

If reasoning through the school system garners no response, you could threaten to sue the parents in the civil courts. Their children's sort of behavior is considered a "tort": a wrong punishable by the law. This specific wrong, bullying, would qualify the "intentional infliction of emotional distress". Especially if your daughter requires or would benefit from therapy as a result of the girls' taunting.

Civil charges against bullies are not unheard of, and are frequently settled out of court because of the sheer embarassment they cause the offending parties' parents. Here is an example of such a case:

http://www.gazettetimes.com/articles/2005/10/12/ne...

If I were you, I would also remind my daughter that she, her hair and her color are all beautiful. Perhaps you should splurge on a haircut with someone who specializes in curly or ethnic hair so that she can see how "good" her hair can look in its natural state.

If there aren't many other people of her racial background in your area, you may want to see if there are any local clubs or organizations which she can join which cater to people of her background. It is good to have friends of different races, but speaking as a minority, it is also good to be around people like yourself, who can relate to your racial experiences on a deeper level. It will also help bolster her self esteem to be able to like and love more people of a similar ethnic background. Oftentimes, when minority girls are in predominately white areas, they are made to feel like only white is right. You should do everything you can to let her know that she is just as good and, for being a kinder person than these mean girls--even better! If all else fails, I would try to get movies or books featuring characters of her ethnic background in the house. I can pretty much guarantee you she isn't being exposed to such things at school.

Simultaneously encourage her to participate in athletic activities and exercise which SHE FINDS ENJOYABLE. My younger sister was overweight and miserable until she joined a local basketball league. Your daughter might also enjoy such an activity.

Barring that, you should closely examine what your daughter is being fed at home and at school and see if her diet choices may be contributing to her weight. Setting dietary and exercise goals could be a real bonding activity for you two, especially if you work alongside her. If she is willing to go all the way, I know she can lose weight. I've seen it firsthand.

I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. Unfortunately kids of every race, color, religion, income level and region are subject to teasing and bullying.

You need to speak with the principle of the school about the girls. You can also call their parents, but keep in mind that any action on your part might make life worse for her. I would continue to remind her that she is beautiful and smart and the girls who pick on her have nothing better to do with their time and that is pathetic. I would not encourage her to get physical, as hard as that is, because she will get into real trouble if she hits one of them and that will cause her even more trouble, and will lead to more teasing.

Kids can be evil to each other. High School and Middle School can be hell, but then they are over. I am so disgusted with those girls behavior. I can tell you that as a white, middle-class teen of average weight, I was still picked on and teased relentlessly for so many other reasons. I didn't wear the right clothes, didn't date the right boys, didn't hang out with the right people, the list goes on and on and on. Your daughter will get through this, keep being her wonderfully supportive mother and that is what will matter, that her family loves her.

I'm not sure what to do about the school but it looks quite a few people have stated some ideas. Are there any groups near you that are of the same heritage as you? I would personally think it maybe helpful to do actives with them so she don't always feel like odd one out. these people that might be going threw the same things as her. have you shown her some the women of your heritage that are smart, strong, independent that have some of same goals as her. i know they are there. i remember at my school we had an after school program that did actives, for tolerance of all people. though i can't remember the name of it. it helped me but tolerance is something i have believe in, that different is beautiful. how boring would be if we all were the same for each of us add a bit of color in this world that color gives depth and beauty to the big picture. I'm sorry to hear that child is dealing with this i hope that may be able to see her beauty, worth and potential. weather she knows it or feels it she is a burning light that has the potential to light the whole world. good luck

technically there are hazy laws at best to deal with bullying. but allowing racist activities (including heckling) to continue is illegal. but i'd recommend these steps:

send a letter to the superintendent of the school system detailing your complaints. be very sure to explain that the principal is making no steps to resolve this problem. once the letter is sent, call the principal and let him or her know what the letter included and that you sent it to the superintendent. you should see some action on the principal's part.

if that does not work, contact a newspaper reporter or news anchor and give them the story, focusing on the school administration's failure to properly handle the situation. if the story is printed, bring it to the superintendent's and principal's attention.

if that does not work, hire a lawyer (who will not charge you for their services until the matter is resolves) and let him or her take it from there.

Since you have already approach the principal, go to your board of education...and talk to the superintendent ...tell him/her what your child is going through and that you want it stop...I bet this will get some action ......if this doesn't work keep going up the chain of command...next step would be the state board of education....and as a last resort you could get an attorney...nothing prompts more action than an impending lawsuit........

I don't understand the obsession with mixed race so many people in here have. If the school is not willing to help then it is time to find a new school that won't tolerate it. The psychological impact of her being at this school is not worth it

If the school won't do anything, take it to the school board! If they won't listen, take it somewhere higher. But in the process, make sure this doesn't get too much publicity that might embarass your daughter.

You told your daughter to yell at them etc. Well, you need to be bold and not let the school ignore you. Go to the principal's office and refuse to leave until he listens to you!!!

go to her school and repeat words such as terrorism bullying racism and if that doesn't work threaten al aw suit due to cultural diversity and lack of support and equal rights and opportunities bet if the head 110 lb blond white cheerleader got picked on there would be some one suspended above all b there for your daughter make sure she understand the difference between stupid and ignorant people .

Speak with school suprintendent if he does not take action or if the girls dont stop take it to court and stand firm on your desision dont let anyone tell you what theyre doing is okay cause it's not if you have to take it all the way to supreme court- so be it!

if i were you i would be sending a whole bunch of complaints to the school board untill they actually do something, and maybe get her to join a club inside or outside of school where she has lots in common with people her age, and wont get picked on so bad