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have you ever heard of any cases where a child is sexually abused during a father sleep walking?

my 12 year old daughter came to me over a year ago and told me my boyfriend and father of my youngest daughter was sleep walking but looked awake had digitally penetrated her. He has had two lie detector test's and passed them both. How do I know who is telling me the truth? I was told that sleep walking and performing sexual behavior is a myth by my counselor and then i was told that if he was sleep walking he could pass a lie detector because he would have no knowledge of th events by the state investigator.They both seem very sure of thier own details of the truth. I need to know so I can protect her and the daughter I have together with him whom is only 3 years old. This has been reported 5 times now to DFS and they have yet to do anything but cause grief in our lives. How do I keep them out of my families buisness and how do I conduct my own investigation to protect my daughters and not send a possibly innocent man to prison?

Update:

I have left him and have no plans to return to him. I do however supervise all visitation between him and my youngest daughter. She has many questions as to why she cant see her daddy more and spend the night? I have no explinations for her except that she can't. If he didnt do this act and this is just a way for my oldest to get her way then I am punishing the wrong person, and I will feel really awfull. I can only imagine what is going on in his mind. I guess all I can do is pray.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    He is not totally innocent please believe that.

    It sounds to me like he is a sociopath, a person with no conscience. A person with no conscience would be able to pull this whole thing off without even batting an eye, and they pass lie dectector tests no problem, it happens all of the time.

    It is your job to protect your little girls now and always.

    Had this happned in my life I would have collected my things and my daughters and left him. He would not be getting a second chance at the sleep walking molesting my daughter bull****.

    Good luck to you.

    But I believe your daughter.

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    5 years ago

    This may sound harsh but it's the only way to ensure this never happens again. The biggest mistake you made as a man was allowing this woman to treat you this way. Women desire an alpha male it's always been that way and no amount of education or media input can ever change that, it's in their DNA. This woman abused you yet you walked on eggshells for her, she treated you like dirt yet you did her laundry, her cleaning, her shopping, why would you do this? If you stood up to her at the first instance of abuse it would never have gotten this far, she would have respected you as a man and just would not have given out such bratty behaviour. A healthy woman would leave a man who can't stand up to her and try not to hurt his feelings in the process. A damaged woman will see it as a green l pithy to continue to abuse. I know it sounds harsh but it's how humans work. We are just animals with a conscious mind, emotionally we are exactly the same. For a healthy marriage to work the man does have to behave like a man and be strong but also loving. Yes, sadly some men have abused their position in the past, hence feminism but that doesn't mean a good man like you should suffer If you would like more help I can offer you some reading material. Hope this has been some kind of help to you. Good luck

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I find the sleep walking bit a little hard to believe, but for the sake of argument I'll say it's true. In order to protect your daughters, you still need to get away from this man. Even if he is not intentionally abusing the child, the abuse is still happening, and the effects of the abuse will be long lasting on your daughter(s).

  • 1 decade ago

    There have been many reported cases of people doing things (right up to murder) in their sleep with no knowledge of it whatsoever. But here's the thing, even if your boyfriend has no knowledge of what he's doing, he does not need to be living under the same roof as your daughter. Period. Use some common sense here! If he doesn't know he's doing it, he can't prevent it and it will continue to happen. If he does know what he's doing, he won't prevent it and it will continue to happen. Time for you to put your daughter first!

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  • 1 decade ago

    First and for most get your daughter away from him. Even if he is sleepwalking, he is still violating your daughter. Second, it is easier then you think to pass a lie detector test. This all sounds fishy to me. As for DFCS they are there to protect your daughter, so until you ditch the boyfriend they'll probably be around.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Set up cameras in her room and an alarm that goes off when someone enters her room.

    Better yet,keep him out of the house and away from your daughters! Better safe than sorry! Plus it will give your daughter peace of mind.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    omg...i am sooo sorry that you and your daughter has experience something like that....put up a camera or something...or try to stay awake to catch him..i hope that you leave him after finding out this info

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