ok..i have a b/f problem..someone help?

That level of control over you is not a good sign. In combination with his disregard of your feelings, it's even worse. These are precursors to worse behavior to come. If you are serious about pursuing the relationship further, then insist you both attend counseling. Be firm about it. If it isn't that serious, then maybe you need to take a break until he realizes that you are an individual person, not property to be controlled. If he can't realize that and value you for it, then he's not worth it.

Bella u sound SO much way better than him and you wouldnt deserve that type of crap so dump him and move on with your life.

I know its easier said than done and I understand the sort of situation you're in because I have experienced that exact same thing and I got out of that relationship coz it just got worse and worse to the point where I ended up being his punching bag, literally! Get out while ya can girl and save yourself the pain and suffering from being hurt...emotionally and physically in the long run

women worked very hard for there independence do not give urs away so fast.. YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE WATCHED. unless u r a prisoner. listen u may have close male friends and that is fine but is it possible u use the i love u phrase to fast and to easy which makes him second guess ur relationship and ur feelings towards him.. i have a male friend for over 20yrs and he knows i love him BUT i do not need to be flirtatious or expressive. keep the i love u for the one u truly love.. and don't stay with a guy that wants to keep control of u..people are meant to be free regardless of the fact that they are a couple

Well maybe he thinks you're cheating on him with your guy friends and he paranoid about it. Sounds to me though that he doesn't really love you or trust you if he has people folloeing all day.

If he's ignoring you then he doesn't care about you. You may love him but how much of his sh!t are you gonna take before enough is enough...? And all this non trust...it just might lead you to get hit or beating half to death .. What then are you gonna stay with him cause you love him ?

Thats if he doesn't beat you now !!!

they say actions speak louder then words, so he gets confused you say to your other guy friends you love them but are only playing around your BF is probably thinking how will he know your not just playing with him, guys are very protective he always will be in one way or another. you may see it as harmless fun, but he see's them as a threat, how would you honestly feel if your BF was hanging around a bunch of chicks flirty with them an saying he loves them?? the thought of it may not effect you now but over a period of time you can only take so much BS!!

He can only control your life IF YOU LET HIM!

Take back your power. No guy is worth giving up your freedom over. Learn that now before you grow up, & get married & you'll live a much happier life.

tell him to back off if it's really bothering you. if he ignores you tell him "if i'm not good enough to listen to, i'm leaving" and get up and walk out. i don't mean break up with him, unless you want to....but it doesn't seem like it, i mean go on a walk or for a drive. see if he comes out after you, hopefully he will and be like "baby, we need to talk", or "wait! don't go." you know him better than any of us, if you think he'll flip out, maybe this isn't a good idea... or maybe this isn't a good relationship...i'm just saying...don't get mad... :) wrie him out a note explaining how you feel and give it to him or leave it on his pillow or something, tell him that you need to talk to him and that if he doesn't want to listen then that means, to you, that you're not important enough to him (tell him even if it's not true). tell him that you have somethings that are really bothering you, to the point that you are worried about your relationship. tell him that and ask him why he's treating you like this. ask him what is bothering him and why he feels like he needs to control every aspect of your life. tell him that you love him but you're nervous about how you're going to end up...like broken up or together...you know??

anyway it goes, GOOD LUCK, if you don't take my advise i won't be mad :) i don't blame you either, you gotta be brave to try it...then again you've gotta be brave to try anything

best of luck ...

Time to bug out and leavbe the jealousy behind, it can only get more controllling and difficult. More fish in the sea, more guys inteh hallway. Take care of yoruself first!!!

yeah.. i agree with self-actualizing. dump your bf! i am also just like you, close with my guy friends that i used to say "i love you" with them without any motives,sure my bf gets a little jealous sometimes but he still trust me, he knows that i love him so much and allows me to be with my guys friends sometimes.

u know, love is not the only reason why a relationship lasts for years. coz sometimes, too much love can weaken or worst destroy a strong relationship. he must have to trust you and accept you for who you are.

dont try to change yourself just for him, as long as you know your not doing anything wrong that can destroy your relationship, stay what you are.

dump him. possesive bf/gf can be scary sometimes. get out of that relationship as soon as possible.

kk if your bf is controlling your life like that then you should dump him. Trust me, you can get someone better, because his jealousy isn't a sign of his love for you; it's a sign he treats you like his posession. That type of "love" won't stand the test of time.