no commitment after 3 years what should i do?

Tell your boyfriend that after three years, you are ready for the next step. Ask him to set a date. If he refuses, tell him that marriage is definitely someting you want in your future, and if he does not share your dream, you will have to find someone who does. But don't rush straight into a new relationship with this other guy. Rebound relationships, especially if you are disappointed about having been used for the past three years, will rarely work. Give yourself some time alone to think about what you truly want in a man, so that you won't choose someone like your boyfriend next time. You've already wasted enough years.

Well I understand 3 years is quite a long time but there are certain situations that can change the perspective. Example:

Career & Income?

Graduate & Degree?

Age?

Is he stable?

"These are only a couple of main reasons why he's not committed."

But if your kinda fed up with this same lifestyle make yourself happier then!! Honestly if you had something for each other and its a excuse to to leave then its better not too, maybe you would want some time out of this relationship because love is stronger than lust most of the time.

Good lord some of the answers people give are a lil scary. Why does it matter? Living together is quite a commitment and 3 yrs is a good amount of time. State and religious recognition only give you some tax benefits they wont impact your relationship all that much. The question is do you love each other? In sickness and health with a piece of paper or without?

I know couples that have been together for years..10+ that didn't get married.. Sometimes men may "think" the relationship will change once they commit. Women want to commit either way.

You need to find out if he is long term or not..if you can't see yourself with him 5...10 yrs down the road...Drop him...plus it's

obvious you are already thinking about someone else. Make sure you are trying to marry the wrong person.

"You can't meet Mr. Right if you are dating Mr. Wrong"

Do you have the strength to leave him? If marriage is important to you then you shouldn't give into just living together as that is not fair to you or your child. Have a conversation with him where you tell him why marriage is important to you and that you deserve to have someone in your life that wants you in the same way. If he does not feel the same way and can't commit to a specific time frame as to when that can occur then you will be moving out and moving on with your life without him. I left my live in partner in Oct. 2008 (moved from Chicago back to Atlanta) after we lost our baby boy at 30 1/2 weeks due to a cord accident. It wasn't over marriage, but I certainly wasn't going to be repeating the living together arrangement and having his baby without that in the future. It worked out for me. Within two months of moving back to Georgia, he proposed and we married in July. He moved for me this time and we are very happy. It is a hard thing to do- and you have to do it because you value yourself and because you are worth more. I wish you much luck!

Don't invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage.

Don't have kids out of wedlock..

Yes, time for you to start thinking about moving on....

Perhaps you need to consider an older more mature & financially

secure man...

Well, you need to ask your boyfriend where he sees your relationship going. If he does not see marriage, don't get mad (keep your cool) but tell him you don't feel the relationship is for you anymore.

End it. And then call up the other guy! LOL.

No but seriously, if you guys can reach an agreement, you may be able to make it work :) GOOD LUCK

he might be afraid of a commitment like marriage most guys are but i think you should leave him and go out with this guy to just see the reaction of your guy, maybe him seeing that he is going to loose you will make him wanna commit. some men usually react fast when they believe they are loosing their loved one, but why would he be worried now, your living with him he probably thinks there is not a chance you will go any place, you need to make him see other wise. that he needs to choose either fully commit or your out the door.

What to do is totally up to you. There's no guarantee this new guy will want to be with you long term either...but if you aren't satisfied with your current relationship and you've talked to him about the issue, then it may be time to leave that one behind regardless. Why stay with someone who isn't on the same "page" that you are, relationship-wise?

I would talk to your boyfriend and tell him your concerns. If he is not open to getting married (well that is married to you)and you are I would have to end it. You can not change people and you should not have 2 Just remember that this new guy might just want to be sleeping with you 2.