Y!A users please help me determine whether this statement is T or F!?

Expectation is the reason why most relationships - whether it's love, friendship and especially parental ones - fail.

Expectation is one’s hope or belief that something may or will be the case or will be true in the future. Expectation is part of a hope or belief process on a certainty that we would like to achieve in the future out of a present circumstance. It does not work on knowledge, but only on a desire of an outcome.

Expectation blinds us from seeing and accepting the truth. Our desires for people, places, objects and situations are driven by expectations of how we would like them to be. We become misguided by our expectations and the result can become devastating if our expectations are not met. The result is denial of the truth of how things really are that creates the pain.

To expect is to risk disappointment and the truth. It works against knowledge because we are focused on desires for ourselves. If you have certainty on a situation or someone, there is no need for expectation. You don't expect love when you know you have it. You don't expect a relationship if you don't have any reasons that will lead you to your expectations. Again, expectation is merely desires that we want fulfilled.

Expectation have produced life-enduring consequences. Desire for something that we have no understanding of is the danger to expectation. What makes it more dangerous is when we weigh our expectations with far more importance than the truths that are presented to us.

Here's an example.

Parents, instead of embracing their children’s individuality and uniqueness would rather embrace the future that they expect their children would become. Children, because of their lack of understanding, can only work with what they desire. Children desire and expect parents to be wise, compassionate and loving gods and friends. It is only later in life when children would realise that parents are only humans who make mistakes. Even then, the acceptance of the truth is hard to digest.

The worse thing is that parents and children blame each other for not meeting the expectations that they set about each other. We blame our parents for not being the parents that we want them to be and in turn, our parents blame us for being the children that did not meet their expectations. We expected our parents to know better. Then we blame them for not knowing any better.

Who set the expectation in the first place?

Life becomes a blame game through disappointments of our expectations.

Expectation is not the same thing as knowing.

In love, relationships are broken because of unmet expectations. Love itself, becomes an expectation itself when we prioritise our desire for the relationship first before the person. In fulfilling a desire for love and relationship, the relationship comes first; the other person, whoever they may be, becomes second priority. The expectation of fulfilling the relationshiip becomes the primary focus than the actual person who will share in the relationship. When you finally achieve the relationship, the partner becomes the consolation prize. Relationships built on expectations never work because the expectation becomes the priority. THe people involved comes second.

Love is more secured and meaningful if you know what you love. When you know what you love, there is no need for expectations.

If you want to avoid disappointments in life, learn to accept certainty and not expectations. Be secured in the knowledge. If you cannot get certainty, then you should not expect anything but simply learn the truth and accept the truth.

Don't let your expectations blind you from seeing and accepting the truth of your desires.

Actually, the statement doesn't make sense. It just says that you're anticipating "expectation". Why would that be sad? You'd need to be more specific on what the "expectation" was in order to say that it's sad. Expectation itself isn't sad. And you don't really "anticipate" expectation. You either expect something, or you don't.

I am not a glass half full person.

This question is messed up but I think it is better to have some hope. If you never get excited about anything you will have to live like I do .. with nothing to look forward to .. because you don't want to set yourself up for a fall... same old boring **** every day... Nothing new to expect or get your hopes up about .. sad sad sad..

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That is basically the way I look at things. i got tired of disappointments and realized if I didn't have my hopes up so high i won't end up feeling as bad. If you just do your best and be a realist and let the chips fall where they will and they work out you have something more to be excited about than when your hopes are high and things turn out mediocre.

I agree. I used to tell my friends that used to say "Oh tonight we are going to have the best time!" that I wouldn't think that way because I would end up disappointed in how the night turned out. So, I used to go out without any expectations, then this way, I usually had fun!

No I don't think so. Yes you could be disappointed, but at least you made the effort. How would you feel if you didn't at least try? Like a failure. At least if you try, you could be pleasantly surprised. Keep on trying.

That would be false for me. I choose to be happy so therefore I would not allow something other than a death to make me sad.

majority yes

typically-yes, because our minds make the situation so much bigger than it really is