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If your best friend won't help you because someone in their family doesn't like you, what would you do?

I am a married adult. My spouse has severe health problems and often ends up in the hospital. In the past I had worked a home based business (but it wasn't bringing in enough money) so that if something happened or he ended up in the hospital, I could be with him and my children. Well, last week I started a new job, that is unfortunately for those reasons, at night. I refuse to leave my children alone at night even though they are 16 and 13. Knowing this...and even having the conversation with my best friend last week when I began the job, that if something happened could they stay with my kids till I got off work (7 pm till 2 am), during the time my spouse was in hospital if it happened, with knowing that their spouse did not like me. They would not respond. WELL, yesterday it happened. I had to take my spouse to the hospital with chest pains (He has had 3 heart attacks), and my friend called to see what they could do...I said nothing, I just had to find someone to stay with

Update:

my kids. Their response---wow....I'll try to help you find someone to take care of that tomorrow. My kids even asked why can't "best friend" stay with us? I didn't know what to tell them. How would you react if you knew the ONLY reason that your friend couldn't or wouldn't help you out was because their spouse did not like you. AND you only ask in a true emergency?

Update 2:

The reason I won't trust my kids alone for an evening IS NOT MY KIDS, it's that we live in Kansas City, MO....and I don't always trust things that happen around them.

Update 3:

And I have recently moved here for health reasons for my husband, on the advice of his doctor...so I don't know a lot of people to help, my family is 3 hours away, and their mother who would help is 8 hours away. :-( I guess I seem to be overreacting by being upset that they refuse to help since I'm not liked by their spouse.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    If your best friend's hands are tied due to their family obligations, then either go to HIS family or YOUR family or another close friend of YOURS to help out. IF there's a way to help your family, it'll be made known before you know it. Just don't give up hope dear. You can IM me whenever you wish.

  • 1 decade ago

    For heaven's sake, you have to trust your kids to be OK for an evening. I know this is not the direct issue here, but it is a really bad sign if you cannot even let your kids do that and you are going to have some problems because of it in the future.

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