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my hubby wieghs 50 lbs more than me. how do i tell him that it's affecting our sex life w/o him getting mad?

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  • JT
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Well maybe you could help him by encouraging him to workout with you and cooking low fat meals.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well im 5'7 about 190 and my fiancee is 5'1 about 130-135ish. So he should expect the weight difference. I think you should just tell him that him being so muscular, makes him heavier and puts alot of weight on you when he is on top. There are alot of positions whice dont require him to be on top. Doggy, You on top, 69. Also look into the "Liberator". It can cost some money, but the positions on that is insane. So just have a heart to heart talk to him during cuddle time or what not and hopefully he doesnt get mad. Just dont say things like he is too big or fat. That may upset him a tad bit or lower his confidence. Also let him know you still think he is sexy nonetheless.

  • 1 decade ago

    If his weight is affecting your sex life because you're less attracted to him, then fantasize about the sexier "him" while you're in the throes of passion. Or find hot topics to explore during sex or tell him to tell stories to you using fantasies that work for both of you.

    If the affect on your sex life is physical (i.e. penetration depth or angles are compromised), find different positions, new ways of being intimate, etc.

    Most people gain weight out of insecurity. Telling him you're not enjoying sex as much as you used to will only make him feel worse, more insecure and could foster additional weight gain!

    If you love him, work with the cards you're dealt. If you're kinky you can probably even derive special "incentives" to inspire him to lose weight. Whenever you talk about the weight issue, however, make sure it's because "you're concerned about his health" instead of "you're concerned about getting off."

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    you're able to inform him that his weigh income has reached a state of emergency. To by surprise income 30 pounds is alarming to you and it is going to be to him. Ask him how he feels on the subject of the load income. Ask him if he's depressed or if there are there issues at artwork or with different kin that he hasn't stated. Assuming that each and everything is positive and he's in basic terms lost his way, ask him if he's definitely overjoyed with the extra weight. Assuming he's no longer, tell him to no longer difficulty and which you're in his nook and you will help him lose it. This demands a dedication on your area to be the gate keeper to well being and well-being on your place. it is particularly conceivable that your husband in basic terms does not comprehend what to do to lose the load. possibly he's a guy who was skinny and ate notwithstanding he wanted yet now that he's older and much less energetic, his metabolism and undesirable behavior have in basic terms caught as much as him. notwithstanding the situation, you the two desire a plan for a healthy existence-type. You the two will income. the place conceivable, you're able to invite him out for pastime like walks, trekking, curler skating. according to threat you could plan a sea coast trip six months from now with the purpose of entering into suit shape in basic terms in time for the holiday. additionally, as he loses the load, be conscious. tell him which you spot his outfits setting up extra advantageous and that he's looking warmer. think of: beneficial reinforcement. a robust source is adult adult males's well being magazine. Their information superhighway internet site has lots of factors for adult adult males to drop extra pounds the healthy way. And so far as intercourse is going, this is a huge incentive for him to drop extra pounds. first of all, intercourse is exercising. If he's huffing and puffing and can't do what he used to, that is which will impact his conceitedness. backside line, you do no longer desire him to be an undies kind. you in basic terms desire him extra healthy sufficient for the occasional quickie. solid success.

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  • Terri
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    OK I read that question wrong. He weighs 50 lbs more than you? WHY do you have a problem with that? My fiance and I have a weight difference too and it doesn't bother me. GUYS are supposed to weigh a little more than girls. How tall are both of you and how much do YOU weigh? How much does he weigh?

    I think you need to get over it and be happy that there is that LITTLE difference between your weight.

  • Isis
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Tell him you want to find some new ways to share in things together. Sign the two of you up for some good form of exercise that you think he will enjoy. Keep doing it until he gets proud of his body again. And you get the lover you deserve.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think most men weigh 50 lbs more than their wives. I don't see the problem unless both of you are obese.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just ask if you can be on top for a while.

    Seriously, how do you think most women would react to the general catagory of 'my spouse gained weight, what should I do'?

    It's usually not the man.

  • 1 decade ago

    Tell him you want the two of you to be healthier. Start cooking healthy foods and start a workout regimen TOGETHER...then he will start feeling and looking good. Plus you can get toned up too (extra bonus)! Good Luck.

  • Pink
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Need more info about how it is effecting it

    like not getting wood?

    him being on top?

    sexually not attracted?

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