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im 17years old and im 8weeks pregant what should i do?

im already out of high school.......and have a job also i have been with the child's father for about a year and he also has a full time job and a house........please help

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im already out of high school.......and have a job also i have been with the child's father for about a year and he also has a full time job and a house........and just to let every body know that this is my first love im not one of those girls that sleeps arond......so can somebody please help

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i dont believe in abortion i just would like some advice on how to deal with everything thats going on....

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  • 1 decade ago
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    talk to your friends and see if they have any friends that are parents too to help you through your situation. even though u seem very stable, it could get hard, especially after the baby comes and the big bills start popping up everywhere. having someone that's going through the situation with you will make it easier. make sure your boyfriend has friends that are parents too so that he doesnt get suddenly freaked out. it seems like youre making the best out of your situation. good luck. P.S. dont forget to give yourself some "me" time

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Yes, of course. She can get pregnant since years ago. Look up the female period cycle on the internet. I found one at the link below, it's from Kotex. Girls are roughly on a 4-week cycle. The beginning would be the first day of her period. 2 weeks later is when she can get pregnant the most. Another 2 weeks later the cycle restarts. Basically don't have unprotected sex during the fertile part of her cycle. Fertile means the time when she can get pregnant. Protected sex like using condoms, spermacide, or the pill is best. And to avoid unwanted pregnancy, you should always have protected sex, even if she can't get pregnant based off her cycle. If she does start taking the pill, her cycle will change a little, but it will be much more predictable. Have Quintonia look through this website with you. You have sex together, you should know what could and couldn't happen -- together.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My first advice would be to not listen to mean, lifeless people who have nothing better to do than attack people asking for help.

    That said, I would first advise you to make sure that marriage is the best thing for all involved before you rush into it to "make things right". While growing up in a loving two-parent home is the best thing for children, growing up in a home where your mom and dad felt like they "had" to get married may not be beneficial. But if you love each other and have a healthy relationship, and you both want to get married (with out feeling pressured) - go for it.

    As far as what to expect during the pregnancy, i would take everything you hear from anyone but your doctor with a grain of salt.... like the person who told you not to cry because it will hurt the baby. buy a copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting". it can be very informative and helpful, but resist the temptation to read through all the possible pregnancy issues and things that could possibly (and probably won't) go wrong with the baby unless you are having a specific issue and need info. i made that mistake and caused myself a lot of unnecessary worry. and be prepared to have a lot of judgmental, nosy people stare and even make direct comments about your "situation". i was married for 2 years and was 23 when i got pregnant with our first, and since i looked a lot younger i got a lot of crap from people.

    hold your head high and know that you are doing the right (and brave) thing by keeping this gift of God instead of aborting him or her! :) i wish you a happy health pregnancy! congratulations!

  • 1 decade ago

    You have three choices

    1. Abortion. I could not do this either

    2. Adoption. I see this as an act of love. A loving parents giving a baby to a loving couple who could not have children. You can look into adoption with out having to put up the child

    3. You can keep the baby. It will be a lot of work, but can be done

    All the choices are hard, good luck

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well since abortion is not what you want all you have left is adoption or raising it. if you keep it you are in for a long and hard road but it has its ups too!!! just try to calm down and everything will be ok. i aint sayin you dont ahve to worry just be happy and take it one step at a time. support helps so talk to the babys daddy and close frinds and family for support and comfort.

    good luck an dremeber no matter what happens you will ahve your baby and it will have you!!!

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    1 decade ago

    Sounds like you're on the right track. Probably pregnancy jitters...I had that when I was pregnant...it gets to be a little intimidating at times. You wonder, "How in the world am I going to care for a child?"

  • 1 decade ago

    all i can tell you is HAVE THE BABY -THAT IS THE BEST CHOISE EVER....TRUST ME WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE BABY'S FACE IT WILL BE WORTH IT.

    TRUST ME i am speaking out of experience, i was also pregnant at 17....my boyfriend(NOW MY HUSBAND!!) ALSO HAD A FULL TIME JOB AND WAS ALSO GOING TO SCHOOL..I ALSO GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL AND I AM NOW ATTENDING COLLEGE......N E WAYS ---have the baby you wont regret it!! take care of him or her you'll enjoy being pregnant...feelining it move and everything ITS GREAT!...BY THE WAY I ALSO GOT PREGNANT ON MY FIRST ANNIVERSARY.... HAVE FUN AND TAKE CARE!!!

    UR FRIEND ANA

    P.S MAKE SURE TO EAT HEALTHY AND DONT CRY BECAUSE IT CAN EFFECT THE BABY..DONT STRESS OUT .ENJOY THE PREGNANCY! DONT BED OVER THAT MUCH BECAUSE IT CAN ALSO HURT THE BABY

  • 1 decade ago

    hey sweetie i know how you feel. im 16 and im 37 weeks pregnant. Some people on here really suck and are extremely rude. If you want someone to talk to that can kind of relate to what your going threw and who can help you threw the ups and downs of pregnancy just email me. Click my avitar pic and my email and yahoo screen name are in there. Just let me know who you are.

    xxoxJenn

  • 1 decade ago

    as long as u r both happy and want the baby just go with it. it will all work out in the end

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Maybe you should talking about marriage.

    And start planning to care for a baby.

    Parenting classes

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