can you love someone and still need a break from them to "do your own thing"?

I think everyone needs to grow and have time to find themselves. Often times that means you have to make difficult sacrifices. Hate to sound cliche, but if it is meant to be, you two will end up together. If not, you'll both be fine either way b/c in the end you WILL find someone who is everything you need. Someone that completely gets who you are and gives you the freedom to be your own individual. I am sort of going through a similar situation, only I don't see us reuniting b/c there are too many differences between us. Things like this will happen in life, but it's all an experience and that's the key word here. You both need to experience life on your own first before you will ever be ready to sink your feet in the ground and give yourself to another person. How can you expect to have a relationship with another if you haven't yet had one with yourself?

Best of luck with all your endeavors and remember to live life with your eyes, mind and your heart wide open.

We all need our own space. As long as you and your bf have discussed what your intentions are and both are fine with the idea then go ahead. Instead of seperating because that is more of ending a relationship, you could try having his and her time. This is where you go out with the girls and he goes out with the guys on certain days. I think it's great you've been together as long as you have but I also think your very young and both of you are probably starting to wonder what you've been missing. You have a lifetime to spend when your ready for a relationship. Your young once so enjoy your youth and get out there and have fun. Just be mature and make wise decisions. It's better to do that now than later when your married have kids and start regreting you never got to do the things you wanted to.

I think being in the same relationship all through high school and then realizing you want to try new things when you are older is almost normal. Obviously it's going to hurt, you need to do what you think is right for YOU in the long run. I'm 24 I just got married last Oct but I couldn't have even imagined living with someone when I was 20. I wasn't wild or crazy or anything but there was a lot of stuff I needed to experience on my own it's part of growing up. I's corny but if you were meant to be with this person forever you'll find each other again. You can't sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of others or you'll end up resenting them for it. You know in your gut what you need to do. Good luck

Separate and if it is meant to be, you will find each other and be together again. You need time away to realize how much you really love and appreciate the other person.

My husband and I separated and got back together two times, now we are separated and working towards a divorce. We were married for 3 yrs. Through the separation we found that we really weren't meant to be together. It helps clear your head.

~Best of luck~

wow, um well taking a "break" isnt bad, but if you two are really in love stay living with each other, 5 years is a long time, and even though im just a teenager now, i think that as long as you know they feel the same back then you should get back together

Don't get back together with people that dump you. You might as well tatoo 'use me and discard me' on your forehead.

Most of the folks didn't really read your question. You are talking about breaking up. Breaking up is only neccessary if you want to see other people possibly (be honest for Goodness' sake).

If you breakup, then don't string the poor kid along. Be decent.

you ought to in no way make that variety of decision for a kinfolk member all via your self. Doing something "for his very own good" is something you do with youthful babies or mentally incompetent human beings. What you ought to do is confer with him approximately his decision to stay together with his mom. discover out from him whether you are the reason he stayed particularly than only taking his mom's be conscious for it. discover out if he thinks he'd be extra useful off together with his father, or if there is another reason he made the alternative. and ultimately, communicate approximately what it would advise on your courting if he become to circulate away. you have been at the same time an prolonged time, see you later-distance would not inevitably be the top. despite the fact which you establish at the same time, he will finally end up being plenty happier than in case you had only dumped him. And yeah, you may result having to tell him with reference to the "little communique," however you are able to likely have the communicate without it in case you will particularly. in my opinion, i think of he must be attentive to his mom is attempting to control him in the back of his returned. It appears like she needs him out of the abode sufficient to clutter together with his head at the same time as he's affected by melancholy; she'd particularly foist her problem newborn on his dad so she will concentration on construction a clean existence with the hot husband and infant.

Oh! Yes! We all need our very own space from time to time. Even people who have been married for twenty years need occasional space. Take it, do your own thing, and then see how the land lies when you get back.

Very good idea. I'm married for 16 years and we take breaks all the time.

yes sometimes it happens but really it going to work out because if u are really in love trust me god will help u