Am I wrong?

Have you thought of how this might make your nices feel??

Your sister is right maybe not all the way but your not being fair to the girls...

How about a compermise???

Some time for all the kids a movie or a trip to the park pack a lunch and just hang out. Girls can catch also. Teach them things that you would be teaching your girls.

Then just a guy day... just like you like.

This gives your sister a day for herself and you still get what you want.

Dont hurt the boys feelings because of thier mom they probly look forward to this time away from her and with you,

Your sister should also do the same for you so that you have a day for youself.

Talk to your sister and see what she thinks, she only wants her daughters to feel that love your giving to the boys...

Sounds like your a good man, ultimatium are not fair and really put you in a place that you dont like but try to see it from her side.

Best of luck

See if she will compromise and allow you to take the girls at a separate time so the boys can have guy time. Take the girls and the boys together sometimes. I would be willing to bet it is a thing where the girls are feeling left out and maybe your sister would just like to have a break and some alone time every once in awhile. Good Luck.

Why don't you try having a guy day, and a girl day. You are the Uncle of the girls as well. Girls also need a father figure to teach them things. This will make the girls dislike you, if they knew that you did not want to spend time with them. Try taking the girls to a women's basketball game, or something that you would like to do as well as them. Not all girls like to do girlie things all the time. Yes it's unfair to force you, but you have your own daughters too, what do you do for them? Do you spend time with them? Think about this, before you get upset. To me it's only fair, to care for everyone, and give your time to all the kids. This could help all the children to grow up and be good adults.

I don't think what your sister said was wrong. I do think she could have found a better way to get her point across. She probably thinks your showing favoritism. Perhaps your nieces get jealous when you only take out your nephews.I think you have every right to have "guy time". Maybe you guys can bring back something for the girls when you go out. Just to show them you were thinking of them too. Or maybe you talk to your sister about taking all the kids out every other time. Good Luck!

Ask her if one of the girls has indicated feeling ignored by you or left out? IF that is the case, make a point of including this child or even do something special with just her. Otherwise, tell your sister how you feel and that it is not up to her to dictate your relationship with your family to you. If none of the kids raised a fuss and if it is indeed your sister talking, it is a really unfair ultimatum - she should be happy that it is important to you to build a relationship with your nephews - she needs to avoid sticking her nose in where it doesn't belong. If one of the kids is feeling left out, that is a totally different story & something you need to work out with them (again having your sister remove herself from the middle of things).

Just be generous about it and tell her that you are good at hanging out with the boys and doing the boy thing and girls you are not comfortable with that -------tell her that is a woman thing but don't mind, yet not all the time.

Boys need to be boys. I doubt the girls would enjoy "boy things" any more than the boys would like a day at the beauty salon. Perhaps if you plan boy things as usual, her girls will beg not to have to be included.

Call your sister and ask why she has reacted this way.Your sister is probably upset that you don't associate with her girls. Explain to her that you have only girls and you like to spend time with the boys, and that you will spend more time with her girls. Good Luck!