Ladies, do you realize that if you don't take your husband's last name, your maiden name still is from a man?

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Reading in the Parade magazine yesterday this Marilyn Vos Savant who is supposed to be a "genius woman" told this woman that she should keep her maiden name and pass it on to her daughters while her husband's name is passed on to the son's.  This is supposed to keep a woman's identity and her sense of self worth or something.  She encouraged women everywhere to keep their maiden names after they marry, atleast from the way I read it.  However, she didn't seem to think things through because women's maiden names come from their dad's last name and even if they started this new tradition, no matter how you cut it, every last name WILL ALWAYS be traced back to a MAN'S LAST NAME.  I'm don't think these feminists have really thought this through.  The point of this is for you women to take your husband's last name showing your allegiance belongs to your husband now instead of your father.  Can I have an "amen brother" on this one??  If you are a feminist please explain what you think.

♥NICOLE♥ · Accepted Answer

i definitly agree. I want to show that i am part of a union between myself and my husband.

Noor al Haqiqa · Answer

With my first sorry excuse for a husband, I kept my own name because it sounded better. Our daughters names are hyphenated.  With two others I took my husband's name quite happily.  I was happy to be in their love and lives and was proud of their names.  

It is a foolish idea that Vos Savant came up with anyhow. btw, her 270 or whatever IQ was measured when she was just a child.  They say with age it lowered significantly.  What has she ever done other than be a writer for a magazine on fashion?

You know by now I am a feminist.  A name to me is nothing.  It is just a label attached to the envelop of flesh our spirit lives in.

Double 709 · Answer

I donÂ´t see what the big deal is about changing your last name when getting married.  I donÂ´t consider it a loss of identity or anything.  I prefer my husbandÂ´s last name to mine so IÂ´m changing it.

The only situations in which I can understand passing on the motherÂ´s last name would be if the fatherÂ´s last name is too common, like Smith or Jones.

♥Amanda♥ · Answer

Yes that does make sense. But in a sense of keeping her last name, she is keeping her family name going too. I say it is her choice as to what she wants to do.

clever nickname · Answer

Amen, brother...

I would continue this conversation at length, as I have been known to do, but I must go now and iron cloth napkins for my husband's dinner this evening.

?Sherbear ? · Answer

who really cares one way or the other, It is the woman's choice which name to use

Donna T · Answer

Good point. I've thought the same thing myself.

Plus, it would get confusing with your children having different last names.

Dylanne · Answer

Husbands come & go but your Daddy is forever. Who's your Daddy?

Anonymous · Answer

i realize that and id take your last name.

Anonymous · Answer

i took all my 7 husbands last names...and they all took them back. woe is me.

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Ladies, do you realize that if you don't take your husband's last name, your maiden name still is from a man?

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