I am having trust issues, please only serious replies, a guys view would be helpful...?

I know how hard it is to deal with insecurties when your man is cheating. I suggest talking it out with him. If he is unwilling then take it to the next level write her back and ask her what is going on, act liek him if you have to. the way i see it is if he is being dishonest with you then your just trying to find out the truth.

Innocent dancing or hanging out does not get responses like "Wow, I could never forget that night". Nope, he's cheating. This is a hard situation, because in the online age it is so easy to make up new email accounts and id's and keep this going. You will have a trust issue for a long time, and because he won't come clean about everything, it's not going away anytime soon. My advice: Let him know what you saw, and do not be put on the defensive...he actually should allow you open access to his computer and emails as a sign of complete openness and trust.

Hey, you're not stupid. So, let's face it. It's is a secret that he's been hiding from you and a betrayal of trust. It is not innocent. He cheated on you and if given the opportunity, wants to cheat again. Your gut tells you this. If I were you, I'd write his words down on a piece of paper and leave it on his laptop. Then let him sweat it and have to come to you with a BS explanation. If he gives you some stuff about invading his privacy, that opens the door to how your act is nothing compared to the content of his message to her, therefore, you have no reason to apologize. I'm afraid he needs to admit what he's been doing, then you decide if you can work through this. If he won't come clean, then there isn't much to talk about, is there?

If you want his honesty, you need to give it also. I would tell him everything you saw, read or whatever and ask him what the deal is. If he still says nothing, or not to worry then I would be concerned. Hopefully once you bring up the evidence he won't be able to deny whatever he did. If it was nothing you'd think he would just say 'Oh it was so and so and we just met at a bar or something.' Best of luck to you!

what does your heart says?.....mind can be easy fooled but your instinct and heart will never lies to you. No need to hide what you saw on his private email, yes its his laptop but it was open so by law its open for everyone to see. He gave you a reason to doubt him and now you are searching for the truth which he wont give you. Talk to him and right there and then,tell him what you saw and ask him that all you want are the truth, either he tells you or your suspicion will be the right answer,......good luck and hang in there...

No my dear, he has cheated on you. I had the same thing happen to me. I caught my wife cheating on me. I can never trust my wife again. I hired a p.i. and the first night he followed her he got the proof that she was having an affair. She wants to reconcile now and so I asked her to tell me everything. And still what she has told me and what I have video proof of doesn't match. Ill never be able to trust her and you wont be able to trust him.

Ask him. He probably is a cheater with a big one for another woman. I personally could never afford to stay behind anywhere for 45 days. I have a job and a lot of responsiblity.

You must be loaded. Take his money and run!!!

Well i think that he was referring to something Innocent... I don't think he would tell a girl he slept with once 'It was great, can u do it again?'!! It doesn't seem proper...

If u feel that something has changed about him, let him cool off a little and don't hunt him about it... How did u get along with his parents? Maybe they didn't really like u and they told him so after u left and coz he luvs u so much this is irritating him.

Don't stress him and try to understand and cheer him up

Oh my gosh girl. He cheated on you! He's pretty stupid for giving you his myspace password. Maybe he wants you to find out things so that you'll leave him. Sounds like he's being a coward. CONFRONT HIM! In fact, email that woman. She'll probably tell you the truth.

Tell him what you saw and how you found it. He will only be mad if he has something to hide.