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How to break up with him?

Okay, so this guy asked me out two days ago and I said yes without even thinking about it. We were friends for months before that and he really likes me, but I don't really like him that much. I'm actually in love with his best friend. I want to break it off with him, because it doesn't feel right for me. I want to go back to the way it was, when we were just freinds and nothing more. So little time has passed since I said yes, but I really can't lead him on for much longer, I feel like I am lying to him. What should I do? I wanted to tell him that it's not working for me and we are better off as friends. What do you guys think? I really need advice right now because I don't want to hurt his feelings. The worst part is, the guy I'm in love with was the one who convinced him to ask me out. I'm usually good with these kinds of problems, but I am so lost right now. Please share your wisdom with me. I feel so bad. I'm miserable, like I'm living a lie.

Update:

Thank's you guys. This really put my mind to rest. I wanted to break up with im face to face. I don't know if I'll ever have a chance with the best friend...I'll have to see where it goes. But I agree with all of you, I need to do it as soon as possible. If I wait any longer, then it will be harder on me and him. Thank you to all of you, you're all so thoughtful!

Update 2:

I just wanted to say that I am breaking up with him on Monday, since that's the next time that I get to see him. It'll be in the morning and I know I'm going to think about it the whole weekend. I just want to get it over with. The sooner that I do this, the better it will be for the both of us.

Update 3:

Here's another question: after I do it, should I stay and wait for him to walk away or should I do it first, because there will be an awkward silence there...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    ur right its not right to lead him on any longer adn u shouldnt. he derserves to know and u deserve the right to move on with ur life with out gilt. so tell him its not working for u and its better off with u 2 as friends and that ur realli sry. tell him in person as hard as it might be is best. tell him u dont wanna hurt him and u still wnana be friends and to plz understand. then wait a while to go out with his friend. bestz luck

  • 1 decade ago

    but I don't really like him that much. I'm actually in love with his best friend. I want to break it off with him, because it doesn't feel right for me. I want to go back to the way it was, when we were just freinds and nothing more. So little time has passed since I said yes, but I really can't lead him on for much longer, I feel like I am lying to him

    that what u said right there is perfect to tell him how you really feel! lol

  • 1 decade ago

    As the saying goes, "breaking up is very hard to do". The longer you put off breaking up with him, the longer your agony will be and you are not being fair to him. You are a nice person and it's hard for your to hurt someones feelings. Break up now!!!!! Come clean, you can do this, painful as it may seem.

    After you break up, you can forget being friends for now and forget about his friend who convinced your boyfriend to go out with you in the first place. Your friendship before will never be the same. It will be painful but you will be doing the right thing and you will get over this. Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    the best thing you can possibly do is tell him the truth before it's really to late. It seems really difficult but things will work out eventually and if they dont then the guy has some growing up problems to do. But since you took the initiative of going out with your crush's best friend then you need to cool down on him because dumping him and going straight for his best friend wont be good. meanwhile after you dumped the guy and waiting for things to chill out get a little more cozy with his friend. but make sure he's responding with the attitude that he likes you to, but if he doesnt then there is nothing you can really do from there. but good luck with this situation.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just tell him the truth. Tell him everything you told us... but leave out the I'm in love with your best friend thing. No matter what during a break up someones feeling will get hurt. But be honest with him and who knows, maybe he'll think it's a good idea. You never know what might happen.

  • 1 decade ago

    the key to a strong friendship is trust soo be honest with him. tell him that you think you guyz are better off as friends and then see if the guy your in love with likes you to cuz if he convinced him to ask you out then he might like you as a friend but youll never no if you dont tell him

  • 1 decade ago

    well to brake up with him don't be a courd and text him" we'r threw" go 2 him look him in the eye hold his hand and say " I know this might be hard for u but I think it's best if we split up and go in different ways" most likely he will walk away and act like nothing happened.

  • 1 decade ago

    Be as honest with him as possible, let him know what's really on your mind. But stear clear of the "it's me, not you routine." In the words of George Canstanza "You're giving me the 'it's me, not you' routine. I came up with the 'it's me, not you' routine. If it's anybody, it's me." Sorry had to throw a little humor in there to get a laugh.

  • 1 decade ago

    Tell him that you didn't realize what you got yourself into, you wasn't thinking. Then tell him you want to be just a close friend like y'all once was because you think taht would be better. Admit your crush on his Bf after that.

  • 1 decade ago

    whatever you do...don't keep leading him on...it will break his heart when he figures it out. just sit him down and explain whats going on...if he rally cares about you then he will accept being friends and try it out. just remember...be HONEST!

    Source(s): God Bless
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