relationships?

He was not like this until they started making love?

We all have agendas when we first meet. It is likely that this man knows that he is a rear end. So he was prepared to wait until he knew that he had her hooked. Most women are not likely to jump into bed with he first man who looks their way. They expect a little wooing. The factor that this guy did this means that he wanted her. Like someone said he probably saw something in her that said to him this is someone that I can carry on with the way that I am used to and she will not argue.

The honest truth of the matter is that this woman has probably lived with some or the exact same type of abuse all her life not just her adult life.

Another possible reason is that she is a rescuer. she knows that he is a backside but hopes and expects to reform him.

A possible reason for having trouble with a break up is that we all expect success in life we are conditioned to this. Any break up of a long term relationship is a failure and this is not easy to take.

I suggest that she starts by doing things for herself. She puts herself at the top of the list. This is not selfish! If you don't look after yourself then you can't hope to look after anything or anyone else. It may be helpful to go to a ALANON meeting. This guy has issues. He may not drink ( it sounds like he would.)but he has a personality that is abusive. Alanon is for those affected by the effects of having an addictive partner or parent. The program is very helpful. It is part of the AA programs.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. She may be getting older but I am sure that somewhere in this world there will be someone for her.

It is not so bad being single you don't have to be alone or lonely. Surround yourself with caring people who are friends and with whom you share interests with.

Why does he do it?

Because he can and because others have let him get away with it. If you don't want this type of relationship there are plenty of ways to get out. Which I know is easy to say but hard to do.

I hate to say it but because he saw a weakness or a chink in the armor and knew that he could get her into bed and toss her out after. stroke the old ego and shatter someone elses.

Power play and ego boosting is what thats about. Not Love.

it could be many reasons that people stay in bad reationship

the low esteeem., dont want to be along.. feel that they cant

have any one so they stay with men that abuse. but the main

reason i feel is that they dont love themselves.. and until they

do this they will never love anyone else.You can know more informatiom....narcissist

a person gets to feel an abusive relatonship is normal behaviour afterawhile.she needs tosnap out of it.he was never worth her giving her heart.he has shown his true colors.she must count her blessings and move on to a better life.

first of all the guy is an asshole who deserves to go to jail, and if she still thinks shes in love with this man im guessing she is a masochist because i dont believe you can love some one if all they want to do is hurt you.

it could be many reasons that people stay in bad reationship

the low esteeem., dont want to be along.. feel that they cant

have any one so they stay with men that abuse. but the main

reason i feel is that they dont love themselves.. and until they

do this they will never love anyone else.

Fear. It doesnt make any sense - they do strange things when they are afraid. Don't try to "fix" him. You wont help him any because you are too close entangled emotionally, and he will hate you for trying - which will make it worse.

Its life and some people are damaged goods and this is sad but true. Just ry to help people and look for the good in them.

she got beat down to love him very much.

Her middle name is "Doormat"?