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Should we stay friends or break up the friendship?
I have been friends with Chrissy for 5 years. She is a sweet, sensitive person. However, everything else about Chrissy is almost impossible for me to deal with, and I don't understand how or why we are still friends. She is extremely socially awkward, very immature, and has no sense of self. Quiet, not a good conversationalist, etc. With her, I always feel like I put a lot of myself out there, and don't get much in return. When we get together in person, everything about her annoys me. But for some reason, we have always remained friends.
Recently, she did something that really made me mad, and I took steps to start phasing out the friendship. However, she confronted me about my actions, and we ended up discussing everything, and she apologized. She asked me if I still wanted to be friends and I said yes.
This seems ridiculous- I know the best thing would be to let go of this friendship, but something is holding me back. What should I do? Anyone been in the same situation?
Thx to everyone who has answered so far. Really good answers. I forgot to say that I actually have tried to help her with her personality and over all awkwardness. I have even talked to her about it and let know how she comes across. The problem is, none of her other friends have ever had the nerve to tell her these things, so she thinks I'm the only one who thinks she is strange. (I'm not!!!) Therefore, when I've talked to her about how she comes across, she thinks I'm the only one who thinks this, and she just thinks I'm mean. I've even sort of told her that others feel the same way, but i didn't want to rat anyone out or gang up on Chrissy too much. So she basically doesn't believe me that she is socially weird, and she thinks the problem is with me wanting too much from her.
6 Answers
- ThomasLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
my opinion, sound like to me that you really care about her even with all her annoys ways. Now, I don't know if I would go that far calling her sensitive. If she were, she wouldn't behave the way she does now.
If you want more out of this friendship, then you need to set her bottom down and tell her point blank. Tell her to grow up and stop acting self center, selfish, and immature female. Its time for her give something into your friendship. And let her know what you want from her. Maybe you need to show her few things about begin little more sociable, how to improve her conversation skills, and little more aware of herself. And point out the things she does to annoy you. Maybe she don't know it. Unless you step up as a friend and tell her.
Once that is all said and done, I think two months would be plenty of time to see if she has taken to heart and working on to improve the friendship. If not, the sun have starting downward. Good luck and I hope things work out for the best of the two of you.
- BeckersLv 61 decade ago
There is something about Chrissy that makes it hard for you to let go of the friendship. It sounds like she is socially awkward and doesn't make friends easily. Since you are her friend, why don't you talk to her about it and see if you can help to bring her out of her shell? Try to teach her how to put herself out there, loosen up, and not be so awkward. It would be worth a try. She sounds like she needs your help. If she rejects this idea or doesn't try to help herself , then you have to do what you have to do. At least you could say you tried to help a friend.
- 1 decade ago
Honestly, if you feel that you don't have the energy to be her friend or you just don't feel like being her friend, then don't. Why bring yourself down when you don't want to in the first place? If you do want to keep on being her friend or at least keep on trying, then have a talk with her. If not, then just stop fooling yourself that you two are still friends. You'll only end up hurting yourself and Chrissy. Friends should be TRUE friends, they shouldn't have to feel like a chore.
- midenceLv 44 years ago
it may opt for some human beings. in case your courting replaced into sustained in simple terms via the particular stuff, your friendship gained't artwork. and also you both must be over one yet another, it really is the most elementary snagging aspect. oftentimes one individual nonetheless has thoughts. in certain situations it really is no longer even a favor to go back to a courting, notwithstanding the instinct to easily do what you'll oftentimes do even as your at the same time, and that i'm speaking about the stuff acquaintances do not do.
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- 1 decade ago
If i were you i will forget about this friendship.Giving in is one things but when the opposite part make you so mad and what you did was trying to salvage your friendship she confront you instead?Is it worth it?No i doubt so,what for?Going out with her snuggling every moment tolerating her..this arent what friends for .Friends are there for to rely to have fun with what for tired out and stress out yourself with her?
- 1 decade ago
maybe u feel sorry for her and think u may be the only friend she has but tell her how u feel!!! good luck!
