I've dug myself a hole?

STAY THE F AWAY!

You cannot seriously think this situation is a good idea. You have already gotten emotionally involved with this "friend". You need to tell your friend that its over and tell your wife that its over and that the reason its over is that it was getting to be a tempation for your.

You absolutely have to end this here and now before you destroy your marriage.

Ok you are the "parachute" for her out of a very bad current relationship....and I am sure you know that on some level.

It is not a question about what you would do to your wife...and I am sure the religious folks would kick my butt on this, but who cares. I am thinking about you. Here is the deal IMO...the most sacred thing we have in a relationship, whether it is a marriage, friendship, business etc is our honesty. It is the basis of all healthy relationships and when it comes to a marriage, honesty is the highest form of love. I think when you know you are ready to change the dynamics of your marriage you owe it to your partner to immediately, clearly and without hesitation to tell the truth.. They are free to then do what they want with your information. Also you simply cannot be in a marriage out of obligation, neediness or expectation. You can't be there "for the sake of" the children,, wife etc. You must be able to grow and thrive in the relationship, as should your wife. Something has gone terribly awry in your partnership as well..so her offer of sex, seems very tempting, intriguing, exciting and a way to escape.... Yet, you know the consequences as the truth eventually comes out...as they say, either in the wash or rinse cycle. And why should you carry the burden as the "bad guy"? A very bad rap just because something has changed for you as well. I would really look at that. Are you happy in your marriage? Are you too looking for a way out and kind of know that you would be sabotaging yourself if you were to go forward here and have sex with your "good friend." I think your wife should be your good friend or best friend, and apparently she is not.

Consider everything before you move forward but GUILT should not be your guide...honesty should be.

walk faraway from the easy...that's truly extra significant to you? Your spouse and babies or your friendship. turn your efforts in direction of your loved ones. Salvage that and carry it close. If she is truly the pal you assert she is, then she would be waiting to choose that for you and understand your emotions. those issues take place to everybody. all of us fall short faster or later in our lives. yet i will promise you...in case you nonetheless try to save this "friendship", the two one among you will purely advance nearer. What you suggested you have been attempting to circumvent will replace right into a certainty. do no longer placed your self or your loved ones via that.

you need to end this friendship right now if you have ANY respect for yourself, your friend, and your family. you may be "close friends" and not want to give it up, but you need to. it sounds to me like she just wants to have sex with you, and since you denied that, she is trying any way she can to get you to try again. she may be doing it because of her bad marriage, in order to get back at her husband. and these "new feelings" you have are probably a result of the aspect of the excitement of a forbidden secret relationship. it is shallow and not long lasting. please leave her alone, because your wife and kids need you.

I answered your other question, but please.....really I am begging you on behalf of your children, don't do this! there is nothing you can possibly do to understand what you will end up putting them through!!!! If not for yourself, your marriage, your freindship, your wife....do it for your kids! Don't make them grow up with a skewed vision on commintment! If you love your children, ditch the friend or leave your wife! If you love your wife....ditch the friend!!!

Do her once or 10 years from now you will be kicking yourself in the *** if you don't..