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What can I do to restore the fire in my marriage?

My hubby and I have been together since I was seventeen and have had some pretty yucky situations that its hard to get over, but we really love each other, I'm just missing the spark and that "in love" butterfly feeling I used to get.... How do I get it back?

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    as you get older the fire will go, and a more intimate loving friendhip develops that lasts forever.

  • Lilith
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    You never get the spark back. The only thing you can do is develope your friendship with one another. You lose the spark after 3 or so years. Happens to every woman. Most of us decide to just make it work since starting over with someone else will bring you to the same position you're in with your current partner so really, there's no point. You just decide to respect your partner, develope a friendship and have a rich fantasy life when you go to sleep at night. It's how we all get through.

  • 1 decade ago

    u still say yucky?

    Anyway, do the things u did when u were 17, play the way u did when u were that age - ie if ur still physically able to do so and indulge in some new fantasies

  • Tweety
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    The pressures and stress of life have a way of dampening things in a marriage. You need to find your way back to each other, and what it was that had your hearts fluttering before. Do the things you both did back then.

    Take the time to care and appreciate each other. Make some intimate time together. and please each other.

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  • 1 decade ago

    The quickest and easiest way to restore the "fire" is simply to get a can of lighter fluid, liberally douse his crotch area, and then precede to flick lit matches in his direction. Hours of fun!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Take a dancing class together.

  • 1 decade ago

    Dress sexy for him

    Send him sexy text messages on his cell phone

    Send him sexy pictures

    Call him just to tell him what you want to do with him that night

    Have date nights

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You don't....that feeling is lust and only lasts about 2 years.......sorry.

    Also, Nairo has the accurate answer.......

  • momof3
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    If your genuinely interested, Roleplay and introduce yourself to him again... and again...and again...

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