My friends daughter was rapped when she was 15 by her uncle. He mother (my friend) still goes on about it.?

she probably feels guilty about it. try changing the subject or spk to her when your not out and tell her what she does and that you dont want to hear it any more. if she cant get over it suggest she sees a counsellor.

I don't think you're going to vote this best answer!! But I'm afraid I don't see the point in giving an answer just to please.

On the one hand a friend that has a few drinks and always brings up the same old thing can be annoying.

On the other hand, and speaking as a mother myself - how do you ever get over the guilt of something like this? Either her own brother or her brother in law- either way a trusted family member violated her young daughter in the worst possible way. She will have - and obviously still does torture herself as to whether or not she could have seen signs and prevented it. What an awful position for her to be in.

If it were my friend, I would visit her at home, when I knew she would have time to talk . I'd bring it to her attention that I was really concerned that she is obviously still suffering and that you want to help her through this.Say you've noticed she brings it up on nights out and carefully say that that's not the best time for you to help her, with noise and crowds etc. Do your research first - find out about support groups. Ask her if she will go to talk to a counsellor, and volunteer to go with her. Say you feel so helpless as her friend and think professional help is now, after all these years at the very least worth exploring. Good luck. I hope you can help your friend.x

The Mom needs counselling, or she will never be able to put this to rest.

When I was molested by a neighbor as a kid, my Mom told me to not ever, ever talk about it. Pretend that it never even happened, and all would be well. Mom said that if I talked about it, I would shame her............ NOT the proper way of handling a problem, I can tell you!

When I was all grown up, and having problems in different areas, I started seeing a psychologist. The molestation had a part to play in all my other problems, because I'd never worked it thru.

Why should this be embarrassing to you? This Mom obviously needs to work thru this. Help her to get some help.

It was obviously a traumatic time in her families lives & because it was a relative she probably feels guilty.

Even if it is embarrassing try to take the time to let her talk it out. It will be good for her.

Support her, and try to understand how she feels. Can you imagine the guilt she feels that a member of her own family raped her daughter; sensing she should have protected her more? Shame on you for thinking she embarrasses you.

She might blame herself for the rape. She has never gotten over it which is understandable. I think she might need to talk to someone professionally about it. Maybe she just wants someone to listen to her problems and to know how she is feeling. Or on the other hand she could be telling the story over and over again to get attention!

my wife's sister lost twin girls while giving birth to them, and she talks about it all the time, even though it happened about 8 years ago. when she meets people she tells them about it almost immediately she even shows photo's the hospital took for her. i think it may be a way of dealing with the grief. this may sound sick but i think she enjoys the attention she gets out of it. it's very embarrassing when she does it in public. i try to change the subject sometimes but she wont have it, so we just try and avoid her now.

She may well be feeling guilty about the whole thing and maybe wants you to assure her she did do right at the time. Maybe you need to be as blunt as the crime itself and when she mentions it, hold up your hand in front of her face and simply tell her you do not want to talk about it anymore and you do not want to keep reliving it, as I am sure everyone else does not as well. She needs to get past it or this may well push you away.

abuse is very difficult it can stay with you maybe your friend hasn't come to terms maybe she feels guilty i think she needs to reach out to someone rape cries or woman's centre i know that shes gone through it with you but shes hurting and is crying out for help

You should tell her to keep her thought to herself because it needs to be put in the past for everyone. Bring up the subject can not change it. So why talk about it all of the time.