How Do Girls Perceive Nice Guys? Seriously...?

It means she saw you as a wonderful friend that she wanted to share part of her life with. She didn't not see you as a romantic partner, but cherished your friendship. You saw her only as a potential romantic relationship and you therefore missed the precious love that a close friendship can bring. If you had accepted just what she offered, you wouldn't have missed the time that you could have experienced together. Don't let her out of your life. You can call and email. Remember, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go. A friend is forever.

You did not ruin things by being a nice guy. Nice guys are scarce. Don't be afraid to be that guy. It's just that you can't guarantee the outcome of any friendship or relationship that you form. You just have to be grateful for whatever they bring and wish them well when and if they decide to leave. Meanwhile, enjoy each person who comes into your life.

I think the point that she may have been trying to make was that although she did like you - as a friend, she didn't want to take it to the next level with you - but she was surprised that you stopped calling her just like that.

I think that she would have assumed that 'all the things that you did for her' you did because you were a nice person -and that you did those things for reasons less genuine.

When she said that she didn't want to have a relationship with you - she would have seen that as being honest and not leading you on - she would not have seen it as saying that she no longer wanted to have a friendship with you.

I understand that communication between male and female is dogged with misunderstandings - but surely - you started out as friends - why did it have to be all or nothing?

I think I would urge you to be a little less sensitive and a little more 'up-front' in future about how you feel with a woman.

Hope this helps - I hope you don't think I am being too hard on you - I don't mean to be.

Best of luck in the future!

there are two states of existence:

friend

and

lover....

you were friend. even on the dinner date. you sound like you got way hung up over this one girl, and for christ's sake you're in college, there are SO many fish in that tank, you need to play the field. don't let one who's not attracted to you get you down and confuse you. realize that you "lost" and move on quickly. nobody died, there is no time to mourn....

and as far as the nice guy thing goes, you don't have to be a complete badass to attract girls. just be more assertive. you need to figure out what you want and push on that. you have a penis, and what do you need to do with that? right! push!! the same basic concept applies for your personality. if you want something, push on it!

A woman wants what a woman can't get, it's simple. You told her you liked her and that scared her off. You didn't call so she thought you didn't like her anymore, she was hurt and decided she would try to make you like her once again. Now she is probably borderline obsessed with you because you said no. However, if you were to turn up on her doorstep and declare undying love for her she may well run away. It's a woman's prerogative; don't try to understand.

About nice guys... I'm in love with one. He did not push anything, but I did when he approached me almost three years ago. You know, it is better to ask her out ofter about a week so that she starts thinking of you that way. I could not bring myself to kiss the other nice guy, I suspect, because we had been friendly for a whole semester and because he didnt make me think romantically except when I could not return his kiss.

Just ask her. She might just be acting friendly.

I don't speak for everyone, but sometimes it's there and sometimes it isn't. If a guy is "too nice" it turns me off. Maybe because I prefer somewhat of a challenge. I have a strong personality and I need a man that can keep up with me. I like the guy that isn't afraid to jokingly be a d*** to me from time to time. All of that aside though, you just need to find someone who can appreciate what you do for them, and who has mutual feelings towards you. If she doesn't appreciate it, it isn't your fault. We need more nice guys in this world.

not all ladies like undesirable adult men and you're maximum suitable being a good guy would not recommend a bad guy. There are ladies that like good adult men perhaps attempt finding for a girl from a distinctive team, you would be finding on the incorrect kind of girls

no it doesnt mean you are a door mat its just that the two of you were seeing different things she was seeing a loving and a wonderful friend and you were seeing girlfriend and i know fro personal experience that its difficult to be good friend with someone you actually like so just be friends with her still who knows one day you might actually have her in your arms

Get a f***in' life and girls are like that just still be ffriends just.... dont be a stalker( nobody likes a maniac exspecially a stalking one) act like you did before and like nothin ever happened.

you sound like a really awesome guy....putting her thoughts and feelings before your own - that's really great of you....i know a guy kinda like you...except we haven't been more than friends (yet) and i haven't told him i don't want to be or anything....i think it just depends on the girl...nothing you did was wrong or stalker-like....you did everything right....don't get down on yourself....:)