Boyfriend in Jail! Please pray! Anyone know the law?

If he learned his lesson, then why is he back in jail for probation violation? I am not pointing the finger - I have actually been in your shoes. it's hard not to love someone just because they make the wrong choices. people change and sometimes you can't do a damn thing about it. That is often the hardest thing about loving someone. It's one thing to be there for a person you care very deeply for, but you have to look at your needs and happiness, too. You asked for prayers for your boyfriend - maybe it's time to ask God for some guidance as well.

My boyfriend is actually in jail right now on drug charges. He's been there for six months. He is in a drug rehab program and just completed all the classes. For violation of probation, it really depends on how bad his record is and how lenient the judge is on parole violators. It is possible that he would have to finish out the rest of his probation sentence in jail. If that happens, he can still try to get a time cut. He would need to be in a drug rehab program there and also be sure not to get into any kind of trouble. I know it's scary, but it will be okay! Even at worst case scenario, he can still go try to get a time cut. Good luck, and I'll keep you in my prayers!

You need to let him serve his time so he can actually LEARN from it. If he had already learned his lesson, he wouldn't have violated his probation at all... he knows the grounds of his probation, they are very will spelled out... he has no excuse. Some people learn the hard way, lets hope it takes this time. You say pray for him... pray what exactly? The only prayer should be that he learns from the life lessons given to him and may God's will be done in his life.

This is not the time for people to judge you and throw stones.

I will pray that the Lord fills your lives with love and hope and light. I will pray that you both have strength through this difficult time in your lives, and that you are surrounded by those that love you.

Please do not think that your boyfriend going to jail means that God did not hear or answer your prayers. He made a mistake, and sometimes we have to pay dearly for those mistakes in this life.

I think that if he loves you as much as you love him, he will stay away from drugs and criminal behavior from now on, no matter what it takes. You said you would never leave him, but he left you by violating his probation and going to jail.

I wish the best for you both.

his lawyer already told you how much time he is looking at, it doesn't matter if he started doing drugs after you fell in love with him, he has a problem and its not going to go away, he hasn't learned his lesson he was only telling you that so that you could have faith in him, he will easily slip back into getting in trouble if he really cared about getting himself together and doing the right thing then he would not have violated his probation, he would have been at home where he was supposed to be with his probation officer stopped by, he is only going to drag you down if you stay with him because he is nothing but trouble, wake up and want better for yourself.....

There's an old saying - do the crime, ya do the time. He knew the risks. And you're not going to like this but I am going to say it anyway. Do you value yourself so little that you are willing to settle for a loser?

Doesn't matter how long he is going to be in jail. He shouldn't be in jail at all if he had any substance of character in him and he certainly didn't think about you at all when he broke the law - now did he?

What you describe as love isn't love at all but need.

And that is a REAL answer.

I just pray that you don't go down the same path as him. As the law goes in any country, you do the crime, you do the time. He obviously knew the risks of violating his probation, so the only person he has to blame is himself. He's responsible for his own actions no one else. I pray for your sake that he gets help in jail to right his wrongs when he gets out and makes something of himself. I guess you can't help who you love. Good Luck to you!

he will do the remainder of the time on his probation at least but missouri is really weird they may tack extra time to his sentence for violating the lawyer is right he could have another 2 to 5 years added to his original sentence

It all depends on the judge and his past criminal record. By the way, I know from experience that he hasn't learned his lesson. 1) he got arrested. 2) he violated pobation 3) the only reason he's not doing drugs now is because he's locked up 4) when he gets out, he WILL do it again. Good luck with him--you will need it.

is this his first time getting lock up? is his po an ***? why did he violate probation? what kind of paraphenelia? what kind of lawyer does he have? what is the lawyer tring to do for him? does he have a job? i dont know what to tell you but if you really love him hold him down if he has to do some time.. good luck.. let me know how it goes