Friend????

You have a right to know if someone is planning to come to the party. It's rude to expect you to spend money on food and drinks if it will go to waste. She sounds like she has an attitude problem. Forget about her and enjoy your party !!!!

You really have to get over it. Most party planners plan to get a little more than what they might need just in case a couple more people show up unexpectedly? Who cares about this ONE person. Your having the party, she can come or not come. More important for you to be concerned about the people you KNOW are actually showing up. Forget about it and don't invite her again. Friend or not. My friends don't treat me like that and even if they did I wouldn't sweat it because there are so many other people in my life that treat me well I don't worry about the ones that don't or can't. Move on please and have fun at your party. Good luck.

It may be that she is painfully shy and was afraid to come to your party or it may be that she always waits until the last minute to decide on her plans because she might come up with something more fun or more interesting to do. Tell her you decided to have a limit on the number of guests and that you're sorry, but you'll have to uninvite her. Smile sweetly and say "I'm sure you understand, of course."

I think you are right. She is not a friend.

Tell her she doesn't have to go if she really doesnt want to. Say it in a nice way though be like "No it's fine you dont have to come I was just wondering! It's fine if you dont want to come I just thought you'd have a good time but if you don't think you will it's totally fine"

thats what I said to my friend who said she was going away to Illinios for spring break and couldnt come (turns out she really was going to Illinois :P)

Asking for a confirmation at a certain time or day!!! her meal won't be wasted trust me.

Sounds like you were trying to guilt her for not attending your party.