Does this make me unsocial??

i dont think it makes you unsocial at all!!! i really respect the fact that youre more concerned about being a good wife and mother! and if it makes you happy, then more power to ya! however, if ur unhappy staying at home, then maybe you should make some changes. but if youre happy the way you are, then you should stay that way! It seems like you have your life well put together, and i dont think you need to go out of your way to do something that others want for you. enjoy your life, even if it means doing what others find boring or unsocial! =]

You sound more introspective than outgoing. Would you rather curl up on the couch with your husband and watch a movie, or go out on a date dancing with him? Would you rather read a good book than watch TV? Would you rather be a good mother or a socialite with loads of girl friends? What is important to you? That's the real question. You do what you want to do and not what someone else believes you should do, even your husband. Caveat, your husbands words should be important to you and you need to communicate yourself and your feelings with him. It sounds to me like you are doing just fine. Hang in and question things, it's the only way we get answers. But, the fact that you're questioning yourself is a good sign. Have faith, trust your gut, and know it is the best barometer you have. God bless.

No, you are definitely doing the right thing and focusing on your family. It sounds like you already have a perfect balance. Don't feel guilty. Your family is your stewardship not these other people. When you have 3 daughters , my gosh, how shall you have the time to have friendships when you are a mother? Your friendships should be with your children as you wisely already realize. Don't be fooled into feeling guilty for doing absolutley NOTHING wrong. You sound like a great wife and mother. I wouldn't change a thing.

I am the same way as you and my kids and husband say the same thing about me.You should try harder to form more solid friendships if that is what you want, not necessarily because that's what others think you should do. Being a good wife and Mom is fulfilling enough for some of us I think.

No. You are content and satisfied with the relationships you have. There is no right or wrong way to conduct your relationships and at different points in your life you're going to have more need for certain relationships than others. If it would make you feel better to call your friends more often, go right ahead - maybe it will lead to you being more active and going out more, but as long as you are happy with what you are doing, there is nothing wrong because you're not lacking in relationships overall.

well, I am like that, I have a boy friend with whom I spend much of my time. Of course I am not sort of a sociable girl but I am feeling ok. I have always been alone and enjoyed it. The only thing that may cause a problem is that your husband or my boyfriend may think there is something wrong with us,and this doesn't matter at all again. live your life the way you like it.

Solid friendships will actually help you become a better mother and a better wife, because you'll become a great friend, which is universal to every type of relationship. It'll also be good for you to get out of the usual routine. This is not in any way to say that your family isn't completely worthwhile; you just need to have different aspects in your life, so you can better contribute to all of it.

Heath

I am in no position to give you advice, as it seems we have a lot in common. I am 33 with 3 children as well and I am experiencing the same thing. I dont think we are "unsocial", preoccupied sounds a bit less harsh.

Your husband should be your best friend. I wouldn't say that you are being antisocial. I would try to keep in touch better with them and not just sort of bump into them. You shouldn't be putting tons of effort into it though a good friend and you should just sort of click.

ya i think u r unsocial go spend some time with ur friends