my cell phone is checked by my wife...?

Tell her to mind her own business in a blunt way. You do have a sense of privacy, married or not. What happened to trust and respect? Either she renders you trust and respect or she's missing out on a lot of positives in a relationship that seems to be souring.

This reminds me of a line in a movie with Rodney Dangerfield, while describing a past marriage that ended in a divorce: "I was a water sign, she was an earth sign. Together we made mud!"

Good luck, friend.

I hope love life is right. I honestly don't like my wife looking at my phone, in my wallet, in my car, or my pockets. I don't go through her stuff and I wish she didn't go through mine. I trust her implicitly, I know she isn't looking to see if I am doing anything wrong, she is just curious. The bottom line is that it is ok if my wife checks my stuff, because she is naturally curious. It would be odd if I started checking her stuff, because while I care about her very much I honestly hope that if she was interested in someone else she would just call and say I have had it, I met someone, sorry, just as I would. so,if I start checking her stuff, I don't think it is alright. It means that there is an abnormal, underlying problem that needs to be addressed between the two of us. We need to communicate if I get to that point. IF she goes through my stuff, however, it is kind of normal. Figure out which person in the scenario you are ,and if what you are doing is not the norm then step back, start talking. Good luck brother.

The only thing you could do is talk to her about her trust issue ans suggest counseling. Let it be known how it is affecting you and your relationship. Let her know that your not looking to get even with her by sinking down to her level. Also point out how you've gotten over what she did and she shouldn't treat you as if you were the one who done anything wrong. If it continues then lock your phone and change your email passwords...make her face her issues before they ruin your relationship.

Hey this is like my wife. She does the same thing, and we all know that trust is the only way to make a marriage work. You are entitiled to privacy. I have never even thought of cheating, but she insists on doing this. You should do as i plan to do DIVORCE her. That way you can be happy i know what i will.

Tell her it peeves you and so you're not going to answer any more questions. Unless of course you cheated, in which case both of you need to sit down and talk - where are the boundaries. Or, be dilligent and erase the call list and the msg's and tell her you're going to keep doing so until she quits!

My phone has a way to lock it so I need to put in a password to check the call list, phone list or even to use the phone. Check and see if your phone has one and use it.

Clear your call list and text messages before you get home and tell her it was an accident. Leave your phone in the car sometimes and act like you can't find it.

You won't. She is a cheater and assumes others are. Live with it, or leave. You can tell her that you don't like it a bit. I know that you have done that. Does she explain herself to you?

Dude sure sign that she is cheating again and all these women on here know that. She is seeing if you are doing what she is doing. Better check her phone.

Get a new number from the phone company. Tell her you can no longer afford to pay for it. Then, keep it hidden.