I have been married for 4 months and my husband and i fight a lot, how do i handlemy bad temper?

You have to put in a series of checks and balances that constantly monitors your behavior.

It MUST come from you. If you just choose to blow up, no one can help.

I've been married for a year now and I had that problem too however I've found a temporary solution as well as a permanent one. Try to make your husband very comfortable at home so he wont want to leave. Invite his cousins over sometimes. Do fun stuff together and whenever there is the urge to quarrel try kissing him instead. This is my temporary solution. On a more permanent note you could get yourself a hobby, join a group club or some organization that keeps you occupied while enjoying yourself. This will help you to appreciate the leisure time and you wont even notice he's not around

Try taking some courses in anger management. I had the same problem when I first got married and that really helped. Also, get some hobbies! It sounds like you are jealous of the time he spends with his cousins. Try being less available to ***** and nag at him about being out all of the time. Guys hate feeling like they have to ask to leave the house. Once he notices that you are not around every time he wants you, he'll be the one asking you to stay home!

to be honest with you what you seek is easy to get but i must i advice you that before you can make any improvement on your part before it can reflect in your relationship. first you have to repent and that is to come to a conclusion that i want stop this and i would not do it again that is all it take.

what have been suggest above are all good but before your go for that counselling first take some time and read the articles in the links that i have provided below. it won't take long.

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well you're off to a good start by realizing you have a problem. When you start to get angry stop yourself, at first it will be hard but you can do it, if you get angry take it out on something other than your husband, clean house, mow the yard hit a punching bag, walk away. you have to start and control it now before it gets worse. sit down with your man and ask him for help, men will sometimes do those little things to make you mad just so that they have an excuse to go hang out with whoever and then they start to think that it was all your fault. ask him to help by not pushing those buttons.

The first step to solving a problem is seeing you have it and accepting that is is causing you trouble.

The second step is to decide to DO something about it...not just talk about doing something in the future.

If you understand that your anger and rage is messing up your life and your marriage, then you have to get help in order to learn how to deal with it.

No one can do this for you-You have to make the choice to look for help and to do what they say. (( Remember we all repeat patterns; so maybe you are acting this way because this is what you saw your parents do, so your unconscious mind thinks it's OK to do this. ))

Get counseling or therapy so you can know yourself better. Good luck.

Go to the library and get some books out on anger management, also some marriage counseling would help you.

It takes a while Me and my boyfriend fought for the first 3 months of Living together You have to learn Eachother give it time it will work out

Try going into counseling or anger management...I had the same issues and with some thorough counseling by yourself and with your hubby, you two can overcome this issue and get things on an even keel!! Good luck!!!

Try talking to a doctor about that. It could be more like a condition rather than just a short temper.