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Yes - it was hard to move on. I will probably always feel like a piece of my soul was lost. I had looked forward to a future that will never happen. When I gave my vows I meant them. I just don't understand why some partners can convince themselves that they are unhappy, walk away and never look back at the damage they've done to the one they swore until death do us part with or even of their children. They think that everything should just fall into place without any work. It takes two to make a relationship good.

It may take awhile to recover but have hope . . . we will find someone who can fill the void someday. Life will be good again and the pain will fade to just an unpleasant memory. You will be smarter and more appreciative of your partners good points next time around. Focus your energies on your children, exploring what you want out of life, improving yourself (classes, volunteer work, church), etc. instead of focusing on what was or what could have been. Easier said than done, I know, but you've got to work at it.

Good luck, sister!

I was married for 23 years. I was separated for 1 1/2 years and our divorce became final in March. It was hard in the beginning. I doubted whether I had made the right decision. I was unhappy for 10 years. I stayed because of my children and I did not think I could afford it on my own. Finally I realized that I was making it harder on my children by staying. I think the pain stays with you but as time goes on it becomes fainter. I became a different person while I was married and I am discovering the person I used to be before I was married (just more mature). I don't know if I answered your question, but I wish you luck in overcoming your pain.

Societal "regulations" will say 2-3 years in the past getting married and to an volume, i might agree tremendously if the two are below 25-27 years of age. I married my husband after in user-friendly terms 6 months (knew one yet another for extremely nearly a 300 and sixty 5 days) and we've been thankfully married for a 300 and sixty 5 days now. might i opt to propose it? even however my concern grew to become out properly, i might nevertheless say no. you would be able to desire to be a hundred% damn confident and we've been besides the undeniable fact that it is not for all of us. At 31 and 40 4 respectively we were via each and all the bullshit and knew precisely what we mandatory for existence and marriage so we knew easily we've been precise for one yet another. As a pal of mine mentioned the day in simple terms before this there are a number of ladies who're so keen to marry via a undeniable age (many times 30) they're going to marry any guy who promises whether he's all incorrect for her. In my case, I had no pastime in marriage besides the undeniable fact that all of it got here jointly properly and remains going properly. long tale short, I do have faith it particularly is as much as the couple whether that's a million 300 and sixty 5 days or 4 years. no it is easy to tell a pair what's powerful or incorrect for their dating. For some, the wonderful time easily is a million 300 and sixty 5 days. For others, it particularly is 3 or 4 years. inspite of society's "regulations" I in simple terms have not got faith there is one precise answer.

Two years is a long time for you to be feeling this depressed. Yes, divorce is extremely painful and it is difficult to move on, but most people do move on. If you are feeling this despondent, you might want to consider seeking some medical advice to rule out depression. I would think that you would see some light at the end of the tunnel after two years.

Personally my divorce was the BEST decision I've made in many years. My ex is a pretend christian, who abused his wife and my children, lied, committed adultery, was cruel to animals, and is still an all around a$$.

So, no, I do not feel like my divorce was an abyss of deep pain. It was the end of pain.

u just haven't met up with the right person yet, it is hard to move on, but your ex is not suffering, or thinking about it at all, so why keep yourself in the pain, for a relationship that wasn't worth it. why give the person who hurt u all that power. this isn't your fault, this was them, so why be in pain over something u had no control over anyway. the pain will diminish in time, takes longer for some than for others. divorce is painful, especially for the one who was left without reasons, but your ex made a choice, and it was to leave the marriage, u have to move on too, and stop blaming yourself.

i have now been divorced for 1 year now and i wonder every night when the pain and misery will go away. my ex wife has moved on with a guy that she was cheating on me with. i have been in 2 some what serious relationships and they have ended from all of this. If you need some one to talk to either im me or email me

sometimes. feels like something is wrong with me or that if i had done or said something different that i would still be married. but i am getting use to being by myself and i realize now that it is nothing is wrong with me and it always take two people to make or break a relationship. can not always blame outside people. it will get better in time. it just take time for you to get over your own disappointment and hurt. some people adjust to change faster than others. it is better to take your time than to make the same mistake again. we are attracted to certain types of men even when we know they are not good for us. sometime there is a hidden fear or doubt about our value and worth. counseling will help you a lot.

Moving on was easy for me. I enjoyed being single. I don't hate my ex but, I was happier without him. I met someone else about a year later and I am now married to him. I wasn't looking, it was just by chance. Life is good but if I had to be single again, so be it!

Been married is a habit like smoking you get addicted and it is hard to quit, break the habit go cold turkey it's a lonely thing even when you know it wasn't going to work