He can't choose between us?

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I started seeing this guy about 2 weeks ago. He's made it very clear that we aren't together, we're just seeing each other. There's another woman in the picture. She just told her husband that she wants a divorce and moved out. She slept with the guy I'm seeing now WHILE she was still married. I understand that makes them both bad. However, I'm really interested in this guy and I know he likes me too. He says he's in a really difficult situation because he felt that the woman divorcing her husband was perfect for him...until he met me. Now he's confused and telling her that him and I are just friends. He says he wants to be with me, but needs to take care of the situation he's in first. How long should I wait? Do I go on feeling second place to this other girl? We r just "seeing each other" but he goes out of his way to protect her feelings. It makes me sick. Should I stop being selfish and let him have his space? He says he has to choose from 2 "once in a lifetime" women. Ugh. Help

Update:

We went camping together all last weekend and he had to shut his phone off cause she wouldn't leave him alone. We get along great...he made me dinner...we talked about what we want for our future. The whole situation is driving me crazy! I want to stay and fight. I've told him that I don't like this situation and he said it would hurt him if I didn't stick it out. He claims it'll be fine soon and we can be together. I don't know what to do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Move on he is playing you.  He might really like you but it seems to me that he really is in love with this other girl.  He just want you just in case the other one does not fall through.  You need someone that want you and only you.  None of this I have to fix want I already have stuff.  If he really want you he wouldn't  care about fixing it with this other women!

intewonfan · Answer

Move on!  He is just playing both of you and you deserve better than being his "second choice."  Sounds like he is confused and all that.  And be very careful dating men who will sleep with women while they are married.  It is a sure bet he would do the same in a committed relationship w/you.
You should not wait one second for him.  If he wanted to be with you, he would be, without any questions asked.

team hassolhoff · Answer

i don't understand why people don't realize how many men and women are out there, that have so much to offer, and who will cherish you to pieces. why the f%#k does he get to have the right to choose! you should be the one making the choice to treat YOURSELF the way you deserve to be treated. which means you should find yourself a man who adores you, and chases YOU. trust me....he is out there somewhere. don't settle for sh#t just cuz your lonely. otherwise, in the long run, you'll still be lonely and depressed, but stuck in a crappy relationship, getting divorced or sitting there wondering why your old man don't appreciate you. that hurts. its a place know one should be. i hope you make the right decision. good luck....and remember... any guy would be lucky to be with YOU!

ivan dog · Answer

he cant choose because he doesnt want to or have to because your both giving him waht he wants...hes getting sex from one and he's got you waiting around for him incase the other stops putting out

dump him he's a liar 

unless you like being led along like a little puppy then stay with him 

dont put yourself down ...there are plenty of guys out there willing to make you number one...go find one 

B.

Anonymous · Answer

Why is he the one making the decision?  I think you should just walk away from that situation.  Sounds too crazy to me.

sxyitlngrl · Answer

he wants to have his cake and eat it too.....leave the loser....you deserve better

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