How can I help my daughter when her heart is broken?

You might want to take your daughter and her friend and let them each pick out some special stationary. That way, when you do move, they can write back and forth using the same stationary and still feel a connection knowing that was something tthey picked out together. GL!!

I am the daughter of a Navy Lieutenant Commander, and have attended 14 schools. I am 17 years old. Yeah, moving sucks, especially when you're that young. Now may be the time to get her involved in email (with your help and supervision, of course!) or even snail mail. Exchange addresses and email addresses with the mother of your daughter's best friend, and as soon as you get settled in your new place, help her write a letter to her friend. Let her know that although you are moving away, there are still ways for her to talk to her friend. She doesn't have to lose him/her.

Long distance calling is on a lot of phone plans nowadays, so that's an option too. Also to help her cope in her new environment, get her involved in fun activities in school or in the community. Hopefully your new neighborhood will have many kids for her to play with, and let her know that it's alright to make new friends, and that she won't be "abandoning" her best friend.

Another option, if it's available, is visits. Maybe during spring break or summer vacation or another type of long break, you could fly with her to visit her best friend. Let her know this if you have serious plans on doing this. I understand that timing may not work, and airline tickets can be expensive, but it's an idea if you can go that route.

Hope this helps! Again, I've been there... MANY times!

I was an Army brat and moved frequently and it was never easy. The best thing you can do for her is give her an ear that she can vent to. Encourage her to express how she feels and just let her know that you love her and understand her pain. Only time will heal her broken heart. Make sure she gets the address and phone numbers of the friends she is leaving behind and encourage her to stay in touch. One of the best things for me was recieving mail from my friends "back home" when ever we had to move. Help her to understand that distance does not mean that the friendship has to end and play up the excitement of having a "penpal". I am still in touch with some of the friends I left behind 18 years ago and it was always neat to keep up with what was going on with their lives. I also highly suggest getting her involved in extra-curicular activities where ever it is that you are moving because this will help her to make new friends and adjust to a new area.

My daughter went through this recently with her girl. Her daughter still communicates with her friends (in the other state) and goes there from time to time for visiting (she still has a grand mother and grand father there). I send her a post card, once about every 2 weeks. This really boosts her spirits because now she's receiving mail from out-of-state and tapes them to her bedroom door to show her new friends.

I have discovered, especially with children this young, they may feel sad for a while but once they make new friends - they forget about the old ones.

as you know only time will help her heal. but with kids the best thing is to get them acclimated to their new environment, make new friends, get her involved in school activities, birthday parties. maybe start going to the new neighborhood ahead of time so she can adjust and be familiar with that environment.