One for the ladies - Men, Marriage and sex?

Totally the same goes for me and my recent ex...we were not married but lived together for years...I loved sex but not with him, even though he was not bad...just gone off him...I think its natural, if you dont put the effort into keeping the relationship going. But then again, not every relationship is woth this effort...whether you are married or not...people seem to think that once you get married, the world is over, there is no life after divorce or separation. As long as people have this attitude, they will be stopped from finding true happiness.

This really only happens in a minority of situations; most couples are totally fine with everything, keep each other happy and lusty, fun and frolicksome! We've been married over 17 years, and as the emotional love has grown and deepened, so have other things! It's all in choosing the right husband, and keeping the relationship wonderful. We've been through hard times, as everyone does, but we're always there for one another. Marriage is hard work, and is an effort every day - but a most pleasant one!

I think it depends on the woman, the man, the amount of stress and any other dysfunction's. My first husband I didn't want to be with anymore, because I had it in my head he was cheating, i didn't bother with any of it, no sex, no meals, no nothing. Whats the point if the marriage is already dead. The spark goes, someone is screwing around, I dont want a man after he is with another woman while he is with me. That is sick.

Good luck find your answer.

That's not true. It all depends on how you deal with your own marriage. You need to keep that spark lit. You are not going to have sex with someone just because you have too. You need to keep the relationship alive. I mean just because you get married , doesn't mean that you have to do things because it's part of the bargain. You need to continue with your candlelight dinners, wear your sexy lingerie, wear that beautiful perfume. The problem is that a lot of married women, really let themselves go. They need to keep the man in the mood all the time. You don't have to have sex all day long to enjoy it. You make it your own quality sex.

yeh its true, sex becomes boring if you do it all the time years and years on. i have a friend who has been with his gf 6 years and they dont have sex anymore because he claims it became boring to them both after 2 years. if the relationships not strong enough and sex is the main priority then the spark will go quite quickly. if you are in love and didnt rush into anything then it shouldnt be a chore. not everyone is like it though.

When couples get together for the 1st time they are at it like rabbits,cos they lust each other. As it progresses the sex starts to dwindle and lust is replaced by love. we then get into a rut with the everyday stuff and start to take our loved ones for granted...we all need to make the effort to keep the flame of lust alight to ensure the other half dont stray...its not just for the women to sort out.

wow she must of grew tired of the same thing or she was not into her husband that happens now she is have a good time this happens to everyone i think we all get bored and want a change when i was married i gave it to my husband all the time but at his convience lol i like my sex too

yeah but sex is not everything that keeps a marriage going it's down to trust and caring and sex comes when both are wanting it not just when the other wants it maybe I'm wrong with this hummmmm

I think it really depends whats going on in your everyday life... stress... family... work... school....

maybe she just didn't have enough spice, and if he's not into it why should she be?