Can I censor my 32 yr old daughter's language when she visits me?

You should tell her how disrespectful it is for her to use that kind of language. I'm sure she knows this, as she respects her grandparent's, but maybe she doesn't realize that you are as offended by it as they would be. It's your house, so remind her that she is offending you in your own home, and if it doesn't stop, then tell her to leave.

My daughter is the same age as yours. She too, can have a foul mouth on occasion and I have to remind her that we don't talk like that around our house. I'm thankful that she's comfortable enough around us to speak her mind, but I just think the "F" word could be left out of most, if not all, conversations.

Good luck!

If what you usually do is tell her not to say that, it's probably just being dismissed each time.

The way that nagging just becomes background buzz when it's done over and over.

Try telling her in a very serious way that it bothers you so much that you have been tempted to ask her to leave your house.

You don't want to do that, but you don't know what else to do. You just do not want that language in your house any more.

Then give her time to think it over.

It IS habit.

The way one talks is the way one routinely talks.

(To tell the truth, I'm surprised you haven't gotten used to it, but you haven't, and shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable in your own home.)

Maybe for a while you see each other elsewhere, out in public.

Maybe after a while she'll miss just visiting you in your home.

If she TRIES, and corrects herself after messing up, try to be patient, as habits are hard to break.

She may be seeing this as a question of you just being a control freak, and not realize how unpleasant it is when you hear that word.

Don't argue it in terms of how you think she should talk all the time -- that battle is lost.

Make it about your just not being able to take hearing that word in your own house any more.

Where are her friends? does she at least have any? you could get insights about the changes in her from them too.

that's right tell her the truth. from now on meet with her only outside the house, somewhere public and decent, but never inside your home. But don't make a big deal out of it just say ..."this is just the way it will be."

Your daughter is 32 years old. she'll get the point.

I agree, Ive known many convicts and bikers talk more civilized than most 'normal' people. I wish she could meet those people and have meaningful conversations with them,

she'll know the difference.

Yes. You have a moral obligation, in my opinion, to say something. You owe it to yourself... You need to frame such a conversation/confrontation with the greatest tact and love. Let her know that you love her, but that you will not tolerate her abusive, foul language. She may be rebelling against you, even at 32 years of age. By just saying nothing, you send the message that it is "okay".

Not long ago, I went on a fishing trip with my father, and when we were alone, "just the boys", he started talking filthy. Carefully and with respect, as I am no "saint", I asked him to just cut it out. As a rule of thumb - I think people that are swearing blatantly are only rebelling against perceived "authority".

If you let her know how you feel about it (how it hurts you) she will stop if she respects you. You may need to remind her gently many times.

sure you can, she' no longer lives in the same house, even though she's still family, she has to respect the wishes & rules of your house. that's one of the things I deal with my daughter that moved back with me, her & her boyfriend use that horrible word like the word darn. my 16yr. old hears it enough in school, he certinly doesn't have to hear it from his mother.

yes, you're right, that kind of language sounds like white trash. you said she doesn't do it in front of your parents? well, tell her if she doesn't stop, that you will go to your parents. I realize you may not want to be a snitch, but you don't need to be verbally abused either. if she wants to continue visiting, she'll have to watch her mouth.

if you know she's coming, try not to be there every time, maybe she'll miss you & stop. good luck sweetie.

.....Don't think of it as censoring. Think of it as making a reasonable request. Something like this...

"Honey, you're a grown woman and you can talk any way you want to, including using crude language. I just want you to know that it really bothers me when you talk that way around me. It would really mean a lot to me if you'd avoid using crude language when you're with me. It really would. It's just an honest, heart-felt request."

Ask her in private, nicely and sincerely, adult to adult, with a loving smile. If she refuses to honor your request, then you are faced with accepting the fact that this is the kind of woman she is.

Good luck!

I think asking her to leave your house is too drastic, but you certainly should ask her to stop using that language when she´s talking to you. Stop her every time she uses these words, I´m sure she doesn´t use them at work or with strangers!

Good luck!

i'd think that no matter who you are to her or how old she is, it is NOT unreasonable of you to ask her not to swear in your house. It's your house, your rules bottom line. Let her know that that language is very offensive to you and if she can't think of a better way to express herself, then she needs to find a better place to use that language.

She's probably so used to it she can't stop. Like my mom used to never cus but she just started doing it when she got mad and can't stop now I don't think you can really make her stop, but you can say don't come to my house anymore.

your daughter sounds very immature.

she should know you enough by now to understand you don't appreciate potty mouth. Tell her to grow the hell up and act like an adult.