Why Are You Girls So Indirect?

It's very simple actually. We do want the men to make the decisions, but we expect them to make the RIGHT decisions.

Take the movie example, I would like you to pick the movie for BOTH of us, not one that you'd like but not me.

There are different reasons for each scenario:

Guy: Where do you want to go eat?

Girl: I don't know where do you want to go eat?

Here, she is trying to get a feel for where YOU want to eat. She doesn't want to suggest a place and then you feel obligated to take her there even though you really don't want to go there. Besides, most girls like when a guy is decisive and says, lets go to _____ tonight. How does that sound? She will either say yes or no. Also, she doesn't know how much money you want to spend so giving her a couple of choices is a better plan.

Girl: Those earrings look nice.

Guy: Do you want them?

Girl: No, no, no.

*Then you get mad because we didn't get them for you.*

Well, she shouldn't get mad. That is ridiculous. However, if a girl comments on something and says she likes it.... you will always win major point if you just go ahead and get it for her-- Girls LOVE to be surprised, but if we have to tell you to get it, then it spoils all the fun.

Guy: What movie do you want watch?

Girl: I don't know. Whatever You want to watch.

Guy: OK lets watch Zombie World.

Girl: Nah I'm not into horror.

It's always better to have an idea in mind and present her with a specific, then let her say yes or no to the specific idea. A better question would be, what kind of movies do you like? then narrow down the choices together.

As to why we are indirect.... girls have a lot more activity in their brain than guys.... I'm not puttin guys down, it's just the way God made us for our different life roles. Guys are able to focus on one thing without all the other exteranious thoughts that girls have. Both halves of a girls brain are connected where as guys have compartments that dont connect to each other at all. When we think about something, we are thinking about the feelings that are associated with it, what someone once said about it, what would happen if we went there or did it, what you feel about it, what her friend would think, if you really want to or are you just saying it..... you get the picture. One topic opens up a huge dialoug in a girls brain. It makes it hard for us to be as decisive as guys want us to be because of all the thoughts going through our head. We can no more shut it off than you can stop thinking about sex.

Hope this helps.

I grew up with brothers so I am pretty straight forward. But I know most girls are exactly as you describe! You are very accurate, so funny! Most girls think that there is no difference between the way girls and guys think. So a girl just assumes that the guy should know what she's thinking b/c it's so obvious to her.

Too bad you can't live without girls! Maybe that's what makes life interesting!

Best wishes!

lol, that is so true. I'm a female and yes sometimes I do do that but not all the time. I think most females just don't know what a guy likes either so by saying that, they are kind of figuring out the guy. Which sucks for the guys b/c they don't know what the woman likes. But only time will tell lol. Next time just tell her you wouldn't mind watching any movies she wants to, b/c a woman knows that guys usually don't like chic flicks lol. And when she hints at lil things she usually wants them, but no one is going to say get me that. Maybe the next time you meet you can surprise her with it, you don't have to buy her it on the spot, she will be much more surprise and grateful.

Good luck next time

Simone

Sometimes we aren't being indirect, we really don't care. Not that we don't care about you, but for me - who I'm with is more important that where we go - that applies to dates, friends, really anyone. However, if there is something I DON'T want to do, or someplace I DON'T want to go, I'll let you know. It's not that we can't make up our minds and don't have opinions, we just don't find the where's and what's to be as important as the who's...

Not all women are like this, but as a society little girls are raised to be "nice", and answers to questions like these, where another's opinion is put before theirs, is seen as "nice". Girls need to be taught that it's ok to be more direct. You can still be polite without being blunt and hurtful, especially with such innocuous and friendly questions as these! Just be aware that girls are socialized differently than boys, and some things will make more sense.

I don't know why, but I'm here to tell you not all girls are like that I always know what I want. The problem I have is the guy not having the courage to say I can't afford that.

Peace.

We are like this because we feel bad asking for things.

we like the guy to be in control. When girls go out with guys and the guys are going to pay, girls are like no let me pay. The guys most of the time always end up paying. We hint that we want thhings, but were not going to tell you. We just wish that you's get them for us as a suprise. (guys are confusing to)

we are not always like this.i try to be direct. But when i am indirect i want a guy to give a chance to choose

we do this because we want you to be able to notice the small thing that matter to us. even if we may not say something directly, it doesnt mean that we are not telling you exactly what we want though our body language or facial expressions. If you learn to pay attention to our body language and facial expressions, then you will never have this problem. Pay attention to details, and we will love you for it. It makes us feel special that you are taking the time and effort to learn what really matter to us to make us happy.