Why do people act like this?

Some people just say stupid things no matter what the subject. Just ignore them. Of course it's a blessing boy or girl. You are very blessed to have gotten pregnant at 38, lots of women can't by then. How wonderful you are going to have a son. Usually in many cases sons are closer to daughters, and daughters are closer to fathers. Whoever has acted or said these things to you could be jealous wishing they were having a son, who knows. Ignore them and focus on this wonderful son you are having.

I think the issue is that a lot of people are having children with the hopes that the child is "a little (them)". It helps to keep up the fantasy as long as possible if the child is the same sex as the parent in question. Men often want a boy, and are happy for another man who is about to become the father of a boy.

Unfortunately, when the child gets to about 2 years old and moreso as the child gets older, the child makes his/her own personality, preferences, likes and dislikes known. The more a parent has invested into the child being "a little (them)", the more disillusioned that parent is going to become with said child. Too often then, the parent "backs off", ceases to BE a parent to that unique human being, and has another baby, leaving the older child with the (true) notion that his/her parents love the baby more.

It seems you have a more realistic outlook, whereby you want this CHILD, who will be a baby, but be a toddler, an older child, a teen, and an adult - of a different gender than you.

The other thing is that it's commonly believed (perhaps rightly) that boys are more of a challenge... more work... than girls. They're different, but perhaps this is caused by most childcare providers, most teachers, are women and lean toward the feminine way of doing things. E.g., more boys are diagnosed as having ADD, ADHD, (formerly "hyperactivity). Are boys "worse", more active, or differently active?

I don't know what the big deal is either. I have a boy and a girl and no one ever said that either one was better then the other. Though I do think that raising my daughter has proven easier then raising my son so far, but that is just me. And I am hoping for another girl this time around instead of a boy, but that is because my son tries to give me a heart attack on a daily bases with all his dare devil stunts(he's 3 by the way). I am not sure that I could handle another boy so soon after my son, but either way I will be happy with the out come of a healthy(knock on wood) beautiful baby whatever sex it may be!

My husband was an only child and he and his mother were very close all the way to her death 6 years ago. I never got to meet her nor will our child(my other 2 are from a previous marriage) but we both know that she would have loved all of this and been very happy for us! He misses his mother more with this going on. He still talks of her like she was a Goddess.

Mothers and sons do get close and they don't really leave you they just grow up and start their own lives.

Good luck to you and your son! Congrats!

No, lol. That is just ignorant. I have a daughter. This time I am pregnant with a boy (and due today:):) I am a single mom and being worried about raising a son by myself, I asked around to paretns and here is the major differences. Girls are FULL of drama(my daughter is 7 and I agree with that). Girls tend to be more 'active' emotionally because of the way the female brain is wired. Boys are more active physically.. boys tend to be more rough in their play and less active on the drama scale. Girls are into sleepovers and friends and whining. Boys tend to be more into touching everything, breaking things and discovering life through cause and affect. Does taht make sense. I am a psychology major and am learnign that it is how the 2 genders brains are wired. Both can have etiher a strong or soft personality. Both can have a senistive or a 'suc it up' personality.. but in general, the brain recieves and sends information to either an emotional level or a more physcial level, dependign on the gender of the person. That is really the only difference. I have a friend that has 2 boys.. one is rough and a nightmare to handle. The other is sensitive and reads all the time and very artistic. But her daughter is the one with the drama. Girls are fun to do their hair dress and shop with. But I think a boy will be low mainataince. I am always busy with my daughter to have friends over and do sleepovers and making sure that she is 'ok' with what just happeneed and I am available for her to talk to be about her feelings and be open minded enough not to judge her if she got hurt over something. I for one am looking forward to a boy.. which I have heard.. rarely even go to sleepovers!!! Congradulations on the baby:) I am so happy you got pregnant. We will both have 'mommies' boys' Boys tend to grow up protective of their mothers if they are raised with love. that is what we will have:)

Oh sweetheart who are these awful people ruining the joys of pregnancy?

Do not let what they say get to you. I think that many people believe girls are close to there mothers while boys drift away but it is simply not true.

If you are a good mother, any sex baby would love you to bits. I think you sound like a great woman and you should enjoy your child to the fullest. Boys are lovely, he'll look up to you, respect women and make a lovely husband. Be proud that you're bringing a nice boy into this world, help the girls out!

Whenever anyone says anything about this whole "boy baby" thing, stop them immediately, let everyone know how proud and excited you are to be having a baby, especially since its a boy.

Hi, some people can be really nasty, i have two very sweet, pleasant boys that i would not be without, and we are all very close, and i don't for one minute believe that raising a boy is different to raising a girl, i also have a 4 year sister who is younger then my boys so i have seen it.. I am now pregnant with my 3rd, i would like a girl this time ( less footy ) ha ha, but i will be happy with either as long as he she is fit and healthy. All i can say is good luck and all the best for the future

I think every woman who knows a man knows he is a "mom-ma's boy". I have two boys and one girl. I am not sure what I am having with this pregnancy. I think it really depends on the person. Some people want a child no matter what it is. Others want just a girl..or some want just boys. I wanted just boys. I got both. In my family the boys are mommies little babies and my daughter would rather spend time with daddy. People can be soo rude when you are pregnant. I am pregnant with number 4 and when people find out I have "4" kids they ask if I know what causes them. How extremely rude. So I respond Yes and I love it! They normally leave me wondering whether i meant i love having sex or children. My answer BOTH!. I have just learned to smile or walk away from people like that. Good luck dealing with the rude people in the world.

Most women always imagine themselves having a daughter and being able to share mom/daughters things, and having that female bond....men do the same with their sons...so for women, having a daughter is "better"....I dont see it that way at all.....yes, when i concieve, i have a preference...but i will not be sad at all if the baby comes out as a difference sex than i wanted....because God gives certain babies to certain parents...God chose you to have a boy and he chose your friend to have a girl....

i think Moms and sons have a special bond too....it might take more work, or a different kind of work, than it does to create that bond with a daughter...but it can be done....my mom has 4 girls and 1 boy...my brother is #2 out of 5.....he is really close to my mom....i think that when i parent does a good job parenting, no matter the sex of their child, the parent and the child will be close.....my husband isnt close to his father at all because his dad is a jerk...but he is closer to his mom....it comes down to the parent you are going to be, that determines yours and your sons relationship, not the childs sex.....

Actually, i think that many moms and daughters have a harder time during adolescence than moms and sons do....most girls pull away from their parents and especially their moms, when lots of the times boys dont.....

I think that each child is a blessing....and a gift from God, no matter what!! I am happy for you that you are able to have a child...no matter what their sex.....that sweet little boy you have growing inside you is an amazing blessing!!

Best of luck to you!!!

WOW! That is crazy! I have NEVER heard that before! Out here, where I am from, it's almost the exact opposite! The women I know who are having girls seem almost depressed they are having girls! I know one girl who found out she was having a girl and fell into such a deep depression that she wouldn't leave her bedroom until she was 38 weeks! At that point she "decided to embrace it, any ways"..

I know for me, I was relieved to discover I was pregnant with a boy, just because the idea of having a girl scared me.. In general a baby/child/offspring which you love and care for is going to be a difficult thing to raise, and a loved and cherrished relationship.. All kids are messy, expensive and an on-going challenge.. But girls involve other expenses, like nails, hair, tampons... Given most of those things can bring you closer to your child in a bonding moment... They are also more expensive and emotionally draining [or I would feel so]. I preferred the idea of a boy. Which is where I think most such comments derrive from.. Preferance. I think no matter the sex of your child you will love your baby equally [unless mistreat your child for his/her sex and train yourself not to love him/her for their gender! which is just absurd, and in which case you are not fit to be a parent!], but most people DO have a preferance...

I would have no idea why people would act like that! I have only one biological son myself and he is a true blessing! Boys are always "Mamma's Boys" so these people either never had a boy or had boys that turned out badly. My son is now 21 years old, been a Marine for 2 years and is in Iraq. He is still a joy to me as he will send flowers out of the blue, still calls me "Mommy" even while all of his Marine buddies are near and even introduces me as such to all of his friends. There is a bond between mom and son that no other can touch, I promise you! And as for your friend who is having a girl - at least you will only have to worry about one penis while yours is growing up!

Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy and enjoy him every second. Pooh on all the nay-sayers!