My best friend died?

I'm sorry about your friend.I lost my daughter to a very aggressive leukemia 5 years ago,she was 16.What you must do is try to remember the good times you had together.Celebrate those times,listen to the music you both liked and other things like that,even if it makes you cry.At first I was appalled at my own reaction,to my daughters favorite things,it made me laugh at my memories. Then I became very sad and tearful,I felt horrible because I was laughing etc.. Your friend and my daughter,(perhaps they have met each other in heaven.)they wouldn't want us to live with all the pain and loss,and be miserable for the rest of our lives.All we can do is live with good memories,and honor them by being happy and get on with our own journey through life.Make a difference,and give to others. Take care. SW RNP

I am very sorry your friend died. I have Lupus, as well, and have had a couple friends die of it or of secondary diseases. Its so hard to tell another person who to grieve and how long that takes. The is no definite time period, and I know you will always miss her. The issue is, do you do your everyday life things, without regret, and with relish? I know thats what your friend would want for you. What she would not want is for you to put your life on hold, isolate yourself, and mourne her forever. Celebrate her life. Remeber her loving ways, smile when you think of your good times.

Grief is very natural, however gone this far, is not. Your in a serious funk. There are grief counslers, if you can afford one, or find one where you live, even a regular counsler. But I do know, your friend, would not want you still to be so sad two years later. She would tell you that life goes on, live it to the fullest, and keep a special place for me in your memory and heart.

Chris

Loosing a friend is hard.. and sometimes we choose not to cope with it in fear of forgetting about them. I have been there and I still think of my friend most days. Maybe you should try and talk to someone about it, doctors can help you and refer you if you need it. You will always miss your friend no matter what but you cant keep dwelling on it, it is not healthy for you. I am sorry for your loss and I hope things work out for you.

I am really sorry about your friend. I think if you were to help the cancer research foundation, become an agent for the program, organize a march, or do something active for the program, you may feel like you are helping your friend's memory, as well as anyone else who has ever gone through what you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sweetie, it sounds as though you need some grief support! You will always miss her. She was your friend, and it will be hard to get over this loss, but you will, and while she will always have a place in your heart, there will come a day when you are ready to move on! Just try to expand your friend network and please, try to find someone to talk to. I don't have very much experience with cancer (lost my grandma to it when i was 15 but we got lucky and she did not suffer long) but i do have experience with personal loss so if you can't find anyone you feel comfortable talking with, please feel free to send me an email. I would welcome being a sounding board, if nothing else, for your troubles!

check with your local hospitals,they usually have different support groups for greiving...you will always miss her ,but not coping 2 yrs later is not good for you...try and find one of these groups