A confused Woman?

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The thought of possibly leaning towards the lesbian side, freaks me out. I guess the fact that I was instilled with religious moralism at a young age, adds a lot to the feelings. I also come from a culture that strongly prohibits any form of homosexuality. Obviously, I can never tell my parents that I get sexual fantasies about the same sex. It's an odd thing because as far as I know I've always been attracted to men. I'm still drawn towards men. That part hasn't changed. What has sparked my interest in women, derived from a short experience I had in high school. This girl I vaguely knew in class, began sending me love notes. At first I was going to refuse them, but something inside wanted more. I was curious. Not attracted to her but curious. We first kissed secretly after school. Then it moved onto her house, where we did some things. Our relationship lasted 2 weeks. It felt like a one night stand, really. She wanted my commitment and I couldn't keep it. I was not emotionally attracted to women enough to want to date them. We remained friends until we simply stopped communicating through letters. A few years passed after graduation. I still haven't felt emotional feelings for women. In my heart I know having a relationship with a woman for me wouldn't be the same as being with a man. I love men. When I see another girl in the street, attractive or not. I don't feel sexual at all; or notice women in a sexual way.
But this all changes once I watch porn, which is not on a regular bases. I've had in interest in lesbian porn since I was 16 (before my first experience).  I can't help but appreciate women's bodies! To me, they are beautiful. A man's body on the other hand, I'd rather appreciate them fully clothed. Penis's look weird to me, not that I'd object one (smiles).
Personality wise, I tend to be less feminine. I'd call it ambiguous. I don't totally act like a guy (although I sometimes come close, haha), 
or dress like one, and I'm not into girly attire at all, then again I don't reject black skirts, vintage dresses, high heels, or fishnet stockings. 

The bottom line is what the hell is wrong with me?
Am I straight?
Am I bisexual?
Bi curious? 
Lesbian?

none · Accepted Answer

you seem bi-curious to me. then on second thought....maybe every mans dreams!   lol. but it sounds kinda normal to me...but what do i know? i'm a guy :)

bored at work · Answer

most women can appreciate another woman's body.  Most of us can be turned on by lesbian porn....

In fact, if you think about the intimacy we often lack from the men in our lives... women would very easily fill that void.

Yes, you're probably bi-curious.... but don't jump to any conclusions because you experimented once.  

Lesbian fantasies are also very common in 'straight' women..... 

You're question was like you were in my head.  I'm married 7 years now.... and only wish I had the chance to experiment.....
oh well...

Don't fret.
Good question.
Enjoy your life.

Anonymous · Answer

Sweetheart ,you are a normal sexual human being !
Everyone has sexual fantasies , some act on them , some get freaked out by them ,some accept them as  a rich emotional dimension to their private life... Girls ARE beautiful !!! Its not necessarily something you need to tell your parents about over breakfast.. or get yourself worried about :) Just don't get confused by porn its main function is to excite lust and it is obviously working !! A lot of straight women watch lesbian porn with their partners . Don't confuse it with mutual love within a relationship with another real sexual human !!!!!

I have heard sexuality described as a sliding scale some people are exclusively heterosexual ,some are exclusively homosexual and the rest of us -the large percentage -are sprinkled in between which unfortunately leads to the concept in some peoples minds that there is a choice ....
 Wait and see who you fall in love with!!!
 as a woman from a fairly traditional  conservative upbringing I can tell you life can bring surprises !...

 The best thing for you to think of  is ...'to thine own self be true' so trust yourself , treat others with kindness ...  the adventure is just beginning !!!

trisha c *for da ben dan* · Answer

You know it is normal for straight women to like lesbian sex.  It is normal for you to be curious about women.  Now knowing that you have no sexual desire for women, your not bi-sexual or a lesbian. I think your curious about the women body.  If you can't see your self dating a woman don't even fret. Allot of women think a males penis is gross and unnatural but love the thought of having sex with a man.  I wouldn't tell your parents about your curiosities, it will eventually pass, unless you try it one time.  ;) I wish you the best of luck

Anonymous · Answer

Ok this might not make sense to you but attack is the best defense, meaning you probably were right wondering what's really going on between her and the other guy, so what does she do she leaves, you probably caught her in the "act". You don't just up and leave somebody you love over a little argument. You're probably better off even if it doesn't seem that way right now....

just me · Answer

Im guessing bi curious. Maybe you should experiment more before putting the stress on yourself to decide. and just because u like lasbian porn doesnt mean much, i've come to realize that. b/c men in porn is just gross and disturbing. man are def. the more attractive sex

Anonymous · Answer

your bisexual .... that's it ..... that's all ....and I would say that you a "dominant bi " and thats cool  in everyway ... nothing wrong at all with you , you have known all along deep inside of you that you liked it both ways and maybe now is the right time to further explore your desires and start to be truthful with your self .... don't be afraid ....enjoy and be happy ... you deserve to be happy ...don't you ?

Anonymous · Answer

my guess is Bi Curious... i dont know you on  a personal level tho so i cant say for sure.... my advice, try more stuff with girls and see what happens from there

Anonymous · Answer

You are curious.  Porn does it for you.

lyndsey j · Answer

you are most probably just bi-curious and all i can say to you is follow your heart instead of your head.

p.s THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!

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