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titania asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

How would you handle this?

Recently I found out that someone who I called a good friend might actually be withholding certain things from us.I don't have to know her business but I have defended her, given her money, and even told someone that they had no right bad mouthing her. I want to believe that she has been more than honest but the person who told me she hasn't would have no reason to lie. THe problem is that she is on the other end of the world. How would u handle this

Update:

I have also recently found out that she has been saying really mean things behind my back, and told someone that she was using me for the monthly payments i make into her bank account. I felt sorry for her because she has nothing and i figured since i had i should give.

Update 2:

recently she has had some personal troubles and i have stood by her, i was willing to even pay her legal fees if she couldnt get herself a lawyer. the other party involved contacted me after reading one of my posts. i am starting to wonder if these people arent the ones telling the truth

Update 3:

the person who told me is incredibly honest and even asked me to go easy on her

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Talk to them and tell them what you know.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Call her and confront her on the thing that you heard fron other people and ask if they are true. She only lie or tell the truth but you have to be able to handle what she tells you and break down like she would expect. Let her know that yes she may have used you but she will not find a friend like you and if it was not for you she would not have been for you that would not have been able to make them monthly payments. Tell her she is a sorry excuse for a friend and that you no longer consider her a friend but a moocher and that she will not get anywhere in life. Tell her that she will always have bad luck for using the people that was trying to help her and that there is no reason for her to call you anymore your friendship is through and leave it at that.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would def. tell her about what's been going on and what you have been told about her. Also who is this person who told you these things. You need to look at why this person told you this about your friend. ( like maybe they have something against her or is this person someone you would consider to be honest.) You said this person had no reason to lie but do you really know. I'm not taking up for your friend I would just question both of them.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Sounds like you need to quit paying her monthly bills.....Want to start paying mine at least I would be honest enough to tell you thats all I wanted....lol Just kidding. You need to get to the bottom of it. And if you know in your heart she is just using you you need to quit paying and stop being used. I am sorry someone would do that to you that is not a friend at all. I hope you get it worked out might save you some money for something fun ...good luck

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  • 1 decade ago

    if you believe the people who have told you about her alleged behavior, cut her loose. there is nothing more to it. if you entertain a doubt about the feedback ask her straight out. then cut her loose-in either case i think this relationship is over-because doubts have crept in and there are no cures for nagging doubts that now will always be there-even if suppressed just below the surface.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Girls can be snaky.. Maybe she is using you.. Well that depends does she call you every time she needs money? You should confront her and see what shes has to say.. It don't hurt to ask and if its not true she shouldn't get offended

    Good Luck

  • 1 decade ago

    Sounds like you have a fake friend. I'd stop giving her money and spend your time with people who actually care about you.

  • JoJoBa
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Your frien is your friend until you find her guilty or at fault. Sometimes their are false friends that are jealous of good relationships.

  • 1 decade ago

    to give yourself peeeeace of mind its best you confront her and talk it out. clear the air else it will be eating into you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    okay this happened to be before ...

    you dont need that in your life

    thats all you need to know & you should know what to do from there

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