Does getting divorced make things worse?

better, worse...how can anyone really be sure of that. We each live our lives as best we know how to and anything else is second guessing, at best.

Divorce is merely, a quick solution to CONFLICT that arises due to a problem or a series of problems in a relationship. It does not resolve or end the problems or the fallout from those problems. The spouses who go in separate ways will still face the issues they could not deal effectively with as a couple. They simply do not get in each others way anymore. That could also be done if they would agree to compromise to solve problems while they are still together. Sometimes the divorce seems to makes things improve due to the absence of conflict when working on problem-solving. Most of the time divorce makes things worse because when people cooperate, compromise and focus from 2 different perspectives they come up with more possible solutions and can provide support for each other along the way as each solution they select gets tested. After divorce one is unavailable to help the other but the problems are still there.

If you have given the marriage all you got and things still did not work out, then it is best that you move on. Sure things are going to be tough at first, as you try to adjust to the loss. But eventually down the road you will adjust.

Now if you did not give your marriage all you could, then I can understand why you may look back and say "I should have stuck it out". It may even take longer to adjust knowing that you have not tried hard enough.

But things happen for a reason and you have to accept the choice's you made and move forward. It is to late to look back and say" Could of, would of should of". It will take time once again for you to adjust to your decision, but hopefully you will learned from this experience and be a better and wiser person because of it.

So basically I am saying, yes, things will get better for you but it is going to take time. And remember things do not happen by chance, everything happens for a reason and one day you will understand why things turned out the way they did.

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Getting a divorce was the best decision that I have made!! I only wish that I had been smart enough never to have married my ex husband in the first place. I left him about a year and a half ago and things have only gotten better since! I no longer have to hear degrading remarks about myself, my family and my intelligence. I earn my own money and do with it what I please. I have found a man that makes me feel fantastic and treats me better than I ever dreamed possible. I think that in some cases divorce can be a mistake. However, in my situation...it was the best possible choice that I could have made.:)

Where to start..... 1. If you have children, the emotional damage to the kids caused by divorce, the kids blame themselves thinking that it's their fault that mom and dad are divorcing. It's very truamatic for the kids. And causes a lot of instability in the kids. 2. Sometimes after a divorce, there's regret and the couple who divorced sometimes are thinking, we could have made it work if we would have tried this. 3. Instead of getting a divorce, GO TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING!!! Counseling DOES work, as long as BOTH partners are willing to give it a chance and work at it.

I got divorced without REALLY trying to work things out and now I regret it. He had his issues, but I think if we just would have stuck it out, we could have made it. Especially with a child involved. I say stick it out. No marriage is going to be perfect. Or just try again!

No, sometimes getting divorced makes things better. Had I stuck out the marriage I would have subjected myself to physcial and more emotional/verbal/mental abuse. I can't see how that would have been better than being happily single and enjoying my life as I see fit.

yes ,but then I realized everything happens for a reason and at times a relationship just ran its course. I believe most people look back and wonder where they would be, and doing if they had stayed in the relationship and then realize we would have still ended up divorced from that person anyhow.

In the begining it was hard but in the long run things have been so much better. I mean my ex and I are friendly with each other and that works out great.

A good marriage with open, honest communication should supercede the mundane issues that occur every day.