when you fall for guy but then you realize you are probaably just going to get hurt again?

Life in itself is a risk, whatever we do. We cant predict the future as we are living today. As if he's Mr. Right only time can tell. We might find Mr. Right but dont expect Mr. Perfect. All you have to ask yourself is if you can live with the man he is now, because there might not be a change.Finally you are the one who knows what is best for you.

I know this is going to sound strange, but its the truth. You always hurt the one you love. You'll find that sometimes you treat you enemies better than your own partner. You have to analyze your stuation from a different perspective, then merge the two to maybe get an idea of the larger picture. Have you listened to him when he tried to explain how you have hurt him? If he has not even tried, have you done your very best to create a retaliation-free environment for him to do so? It sounds like you have a history of dumping the entire (or nearly) situation on him and accepting little or no responsibility on your part. Most people aren't assholes for no reason. There has to be some provocation. So please, approach it sincerely with him, find out just what about you is so irritating to him, and make an effort to work together through these things.

sorry dear....that is a call only you can make. I will say that all relationships have ups and downs....and the real strength of the relationship and the commitment are shown at these times.

It is entirely personal, talk it out with him. Each of you should write out exactly what you want out of a partner, the things you love, and dislike about eachother, and go through it with eachother. make commitments, compromises and figure out if there are dealbreakers.

My best advice after doing all this, if you are still unsure.....take a break....a real break...minimal contact, and let yourself time and space and freedom to figure things out.

An I am sorry but the first poster is *** backwards! He shouldn't change for you....he should change for himself, because he wants or because the relationship is worth it to him.

Don't expect him to change for you....if you do...I hope he finds the door soon

It's very stressful to wait for his behavior to change. You gamble - chances are 50/50.

Wait a little more and watch for any changes. Do NOT let him hurt you again. You should SENSE with your heart how much longer you can wait, and give him a chance. You don't deserve to be hurt. But do not wait too long though. Remember if a man loves you he will do his best to change.

Good luck to you. :)

It's hard to tell you what to do because it's hard to tell if he will really change. If you think that he will change for you and that he is willing to work things out then it's worth staying with him but if you feel like he's just talking bs then maybe that's a sign that you should move on and find someone better. Just decide weither or not it's worth trying to work out. Good Luck

Take it from somebody that knows, change is a very long process that may never happen. If you are not completely happy with him now don't base future decisions on something that may or may not happen. Of course, people can promise you the world but you know in you heart that the world is not theirs to promise. I think you should move on. If you were really in love you would not spend time focusing on his flaws. Good luck with your decision.

If the guy is physically or mentally abusing you, get out of the relationship fast! It will never change.

If this isn't the case and he is possibly unfaithful, he will always be unfaithful. If you haven't been to Church, try attending. Open your Bible in your spare time and pray about your situation. Jesus Christ will lead you and heal you. God loves you very much. Once you put Jesus Christ FIRST, everything else will fall into place. -God Bless.

Dont make a person change for you. And you dont change for them. It may hurt, and you may cry, but if you guys are having at least 5 fights in 2 weeks then its not worth it.

I've been there. I think it's ok to try it twice as everyone needs a second chance, but after that forget it. It'll be hard but try to figure out what it is about him that hurts you. Once you figure out your mysterious attraction to him it won't be mysterious anymore and you'll be able to move on to another guy.

im going thru the same thing i like but dont want to get hurt trying to make it better