What can I do about M-I-L being a *****?

You quietly and firmly keep protecting your children at all costs. They are your first priority. Your MIL sounds like a mental case, but you can not fix her. As for your husband, make it very clear to him that you will put up with a lot from his mother, but if she ever puts your children in danger again, you will report her to the police, and if he won't support you on this then evidently he doesn't love his children.

And remember, right now you have bigger fish to fry than your MIL having pitiful manners or driving through your yard. She put your child's life in danger, and until she shows better judgment, there is no reason to let her have them in her care again. Do not leave or divorce your husband. You loose control of your children part time the instant you do. You are the safety net between your children and your MIL.

You won't have much luck unless you and DH are on the same page with this. You need to know why he thinks using an infant seat on his 1 1/2 year old child is acceptable. Does he truly believe that or is he just defending his mom out of habit?

In the first case you need to decide if this situation is the best one for you and your children to be in.

In the second case he needs to start handling his mom. He should have to clean up the tire tracks on the lawn, run his sister on errands and make sure his mom has an adequate car seat.

Maybe once he's dealt with enough crap he'll be ready to sit down with you and come up with a plan of action that you can both agree to. Once you have that you can present a united front to his mom and the rest of the family and it won't be so easy to blame all of the problems on you.

There's not a whole lot you can do, obviously she's going to continue to take what you say and twist it around, are you sure that you aren't being just a tad irritating, confrontational etc, even if it's just in your tone or body language? Instead of looking for things and ways in which she annoys you and makes the relationship difficult, why not search for ways to make it better. Someone has to step up to the plate, why not you? As for the safety of your child, you already told her how you felt, and if you aren't certain she will follow your guidelines, don't let her watch your child until you feel reassured that she will take better safety measures.

Good luck! If I say anything at all about my MIL to my hubby he freaks out. I just ignore the B$%@ most of the time :) However, if my MIL ever did that with my child, I would make a huge deal about it, and I would tell her that she can't take my child anywhere until she can respect my decisions on keeping my child safe and by following the law! I know that really wasn't much help, but lol I had to vent.

Well dude quit attaching her,try attacking her and she might leave you alone!