brandyswilkes

We've been married 9 yrs and I often wonder if he loves me. We have an 8 yr old and a 2 yr old, who we both love. But in 9 yrs, I have always doubted his love for me, because he is so withdrawn from me. Often when I go to kiss him he pulls away, groans when I make a sexual advancement to him, doesn't hold my hand while we're out together. I'm not ugly or fat so their shouldn't be any shame in being with me. I get hit on regularly. When I talk to him about how I feel, he often plays it off and says he loves me but that he's just preoccupied. But can he really be preoccupied for 9 yrs, I don't think so. Our personalities are so different, He's funny but very "stiff" Where as I am funny but colorful. The way he acts makes everyone think he's an a88hole . Very withdrawn from everyone, even me. I just don't get it. What do you think? Oh and I don't need anyone telling me we need counselling, we've done that and he didn't talk to me for 2 days after.

My MIL takes everything I say and manipulates it to make it sound like I've attached her. She drove her car through my yard cause she didn't want to wait for it to pass her, I said something and she told everyone I attached her verbally, I expect her 15 yr daughter to clean up after herself when she's here and when I told her that they said I attached her too and that I sd she couldn't be here. She's also annoying in her own right, always late, expects me to run all over to take her kid somewhere, when I have my 2 young kids. And the other day she took my 1 1/2 yr old out, there wasn't a car seat avail so she took an old meldewed INFANT carseat put a trash bag over it and then put my 1 1/2 yr in it and strapped her in w/ adult seat belt. When I confronted her about the safety of my child being compromised she acted like I was overreacting, I wasn't yelling, which I should've. My husband tells me that I am overly critical of her and I expect too much from her. How can I fix this?

I had my 2nd child over a yr ago. Me and my husband were certain we didn't want anymore than 2 when we got together, but I didn't have my tubes tied after she was born. Is there anyone who could share with me what made them want to have their tubes tied. The reasons for me to get it done are * we already have 2 healthy girls, it's expensive raising a family, we're happy, the world is getting crowded, how hard will it be for the 2 that I have to get a job?,

The reasons not to are *it's so final.

How did you (and your partner) decide?

I'm just unsure (a little). Thanks

for everyone who is leaving kind responses, I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

I've been married for 8 yrs and I love my hubby, we have 2 kids 7 & 1. I graduated with my degree in Interior Design, I recieved highest honors and worked really hard. Now I can't find a job that'll turn a profit from after paying for d/c and such. So I am at home with our 1 yr old. She is completely opposite from my 1st. I take care of everything. The bills, kids, dinner, dishes, laundry, homework, cleaning, I do mean everything. He comes home & acts like he's off the clock & doesn't have to do anything. He does work hard and I try to show how I appriciate that. But I am never off the clock. Today, sunday, I got in the shower my only quiet time and he let our 1 yr old over the safety gate and helped her open the curtain, then he did it 3x til I got mad and cursed at him. It's driving me crazy, today I seriously thought about leaving him. It's been this way for 8 yrs. i've asked I've cried I've screamed. nada. He says tell him what i want he'll do it. great another kid. What do I do?