Asking a shy guy out? Will it scare him off?

Okay, so I'm in a similar situation with an awesome girl right now and "the rules" are driving me nuts! But you're right, this guy proposed to call on Sunday and he's taking way too long, rules or no rules. There's really not enough info to be able to tell why, perhaps he's shy, or perhaps he got run over by a cement truck - hard to tell.

Anyway, I got this girl's number and I'm totally shy about calling her. It's been a ridiculously long time. I see her at the gym and we exchange friendly hellos and ever-so-slight flirtations in passing, but I'm too afraid to blush or show too much of my face because it would be too easy to tell that I'm really into her. So turn the tables on that "rule": once a guy shows how interested he is, the girls tend to walk because the "chase" is off and it was too easy. I think we all like a challenge, this way we know we have an authentic "potential" out there.

So, if I were you, I'd find him in some normal setting, somewhere you two normally see each other. Then I would walk right up to him, give him a big smile and then punch him in the shoulder. Jab him. Then say, "Hey! I thought you were going to call me... did aliens get you?" He'll probably fumble around a little bit, but he'll know the score. Make it a quick conversation, don't make him too uncomfortable. Just finish the conversation with something like: "Call me. I might actually answer!" Then leave.

Hope that helps! We shy guys are really a pain!

If you really like him then you will contact him. Sod this rules thing as no 2 people are the same, and there is no universal approach when it comes to relationships. He might be thinking that you don't think that way about him, and that's why he hasn't called?

If you really like him I think you should just start off by texting him first. I'm the same as you, I'm picky and its hard for me to become attracted to people that I meet right off the bat, so just send a casual 'Hey whats up?' and build from there. Good luck!

Guys should always extend the invite first, but if the opportunity presents itself to a girl, there's nothing wrong in the reversed role whatsoever.....since you already have boosted cofidence to even wanna ask him out, use it to your fullest potential and with feminine finesse.....a girl once asked me out and although she was married (but separated for a long time), I greatly admired the confidence she put in her invite so much that I just had to say yes.....I really do have a much greater respect for the sanctity of marriage than that, but the confidence and boldness with which she asked was really that overwhelming.....we had a purely platonic evening and I just kept thinking about it the whole time we were hanging out that night.....she wanted to go out with me so much, she asked me herself.....wow! Okay, you like him and he possibly likes you also but doesn't seem to have the balls to ask you out.....go ahead and ask him out if you really wanna go out with him (so that you won't go for a long time miserably wondering "what if?").....I really don't see him turning down on it but if he does, there should be no awkwardness between you two if you're already friends, just blow it off and leave it in yesterday, and continue into the future as if it didn't happen, and always remember that you did put your own "balls" into action despite being turned down and that yours were substantially bigger than his.....and if he says yes (which I'm willing to bet he will), just remember--he admired your confidence so much, he just had to say yes.....and if he's really that shy, it just puts you that much further ahead in the game.....straight up sentiments baby girl, and blessings to you.....

Wait when a guy does that he wants to see if ur Giving in to him.If u call him that means ur an easy target but if u cool down and wait He will call u and if he doesnt then find another guy and get with him!

What was your answer? I never understand someone calling you today and asking if they can call you tomorrow - if he has your number he can call you! If he likes you he will call. Men are meister bull*hitters - believe what they do, not what they say.

probably confrontation might scare him off cus he might not be able to handle it. First try texting him or emailing till he is comfortable to meet up face to face.

just ask and leave the rest to him,if you think he might be too shy to give you a good response asking,then text or mail him.

those constraints no longer apply to modern society.

If you want him go after him, besides if he's shy, he'll probably need a little kick to get him fired up

i was shy if a girl liked me i would have appreciated it alot if a girl asked me out. then again this girl who liked me asked me out sorta in 8th grade but i had absolutely zero attraction to her... she was a tomboy and thick tho so that was why.

i say go for it.