Am I an abusive person?

You’re not wrong for the way you acted. I hate how people will break our hearts, and then turn the tables so the person who is doing right and who is being loyal feels like it’s there fault. She was the one who did this. You didn’t do anything to her. She lied. She was the fake. You are not an abusive person if you were. The first time you caught her lying you would of beat the crap out of her. That’s abusive. She abused you by thinking that she could do this and get away with it. Be thankful that she’s gone. You don’t need a woman like that she is obviously not mature enough to be committed to anyone.

Don’t you worry.

What goes around comes around and trust me in time she will get her’s.

It’s karma baby!

I Use to feel like I was being an abusive, controlling, and an extremely jealous girlfriend.

I remember when my (EX) would constantly talk to other girls.

When we got together we both were cool that we made friends with the opposite sex.

Then as time went on all hell broke lose.

Girls were calling him non stop, and even at 2-3am.

He would constantly tell me they were friends.

He would always leave the room when talking to them, and he would delete all their text msgs.

I cried all the time and begged him to stop talking with these girls, only later to find out they were all his ex girlfriends.

I freaked and I told him if he continued to delete his text msgs we were through why the hell would he hide them if he was being a good boyfriend. He wouldn't.

He even had the nerve to bring one to my house.

When he was on the computer and I walked in the room he'd be clicking everything shut. So I fixed him and put a monitor on my computer so I could check everything he did, because my trust for him was gone, and he was always acting so sheisty.

I busted him sure enough making lava life profiles, looking for chicks. I got so sick of him, but I found it hard to leave him because I always made excuses for his behavior and would lie to myself. It just got so bad. My heart was always racing, I was always wondering what he was doing. It was awful, and I couldn't believe that someone would do such a thing when I was paying for everything too. The house, the car, his clothes, his phone, his smokes. I was just used and I was his sucker. The lies just kept going on for months. Then he'd see girls and when he'd talk with them he wouldn't even introduce me. There was even this one time where he left me on the dance floor alone to go and dance with some chick who was wearing a white shirt and no bra. I felt humiliated.

I felt like I was trying to control him, I was always yelling and nagging so I felt like I was bossing him around. He made me feel like it was my fault our relationship was destroyed. It really sucked. I made friends with his ex gf and she told me everything about his flirty behavior and all the things he'd say to her. That was enough and I'm so glad that it's over. I dumped him at a party in front of several people telling him to get his **** out of my house and never call me or talk to me ever again! That was the end of that.

Best of Luck

Time heals everything :0)

From all you have said, there is more to the situation than even you may know, One your jealousy was probebly the reason she looked somewhere else,in the first place you say she felt like a maid and sex slave well that would make most women go, so she went online to meet people.

two, why are you insecure? have you always been this way or just in this one relationship? Before you get in another relationship you need to deal with the issues inside your own head.

The only way to answer that is to not date anyone you don't trust. If you find you can't find a date (or a gf) cause you don't trust any female....then it is you.

Sounded like she was doing some suspicious activities, but I am going by what you say.

My ex had a problem with jealousy. He would imagine all sorts of things and make up stuff.....but I think he really beleived it. I guess that is one of the symptoms to his issues.

Final advise. Don't stay with someone when your gut or instincts are telling you something isn't right and you don't trust them.

Jealousy is natural for some guys. I have a slight problem with jealousy myself. As far as trust goes, I can't help you there. No one can help you there. You have to control yourself. You have to know that you can trust her. If you can't trust her then you should call it quits before someone winds up getting hurt. I'm not saying that you would ever hit a girl, I mean EMOTIONALLY.

Perhaps it is best that you two aren't together. Maybe you'll find someone you can trust.

Best of luck

insecure.. jealousy has no place when your in love.. and she must not have been in love with you..if you don`t trust the person you are with it will never be a good solid relationship..and whom she is talking to is really none of your business whether your in a relationship or not..trust is the only thing that makes or breaks a relationship.. if you don`t have that then you have nothing..

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You are not an abusive person to a conclusion of what you have stated above. You shouldn't be jealous though, she did that to you, it's her sin, let her be sorry for it. You did nothing wrong, therefore you have nothing to worry about. I really hope you have success in all that you do. Really, don't worry about her, and remember she should be in pain since she did wrong and not you.

What you are experiencing is normal when betrayed. I think you need another relationship. That is not good if you REALLY can't trust her, and if she lies about things. Look around yourself and wake up and smell the coffee.

She was cheating when talking to other men on the internet, and lying about it. You have the right to break up and move on.

jealous yes, but no way abusive