Step daughter!!?

i think a junior bridesmaid is very appropriate. Check out www.familymedallions.com for a great gift, I don't know if you're having a children's ceremony or not, but this is what I gave my step-daughter at our wedding, DH gave her a simple gold ring. We didn't do the vows, we did a unity candle as a couple then presented her with the gifts. Best wishes!

I think having her as a junior bridesmaid is the best idea. When my aunt got married I was 10 at the time and she wanted me to be a part of the wedding and like you said she is too old to be a flower girl, as was I at the time of my aunts wedding. I thought it was the best thing in the entire world to be a junior bridesmaid :) I got a dress that was the same basic idea as the other bridesmaids, and she made my flowers a little different

definitely have her as an attendant, but perhaps avoid giving her the title of "junior bridesmaid". Could make her feel less important. You're right. She's a little old to be a flower girl, and it might seem childish to her. I'm sure if you ask her to be in the wedding she'll be excited about it. What a nice way to try and include her in your plans.

She is not to old to be a flower girl, close to the edge of the between 6 - 10, but she could be a Junior Bridemaids or walk her dad up the aisle.

I think being a junior bridesmaid will be wonderful for her. She's the right age and you could include her in your preparation on the day you go get your nails and hair done let her enjoy the experience with you it will form a great bond between you two.

I think a jr. bridesmaid would be great! It would make her feel like shes a very important part of the wedding. Make sure to include her in the hair styling, manicures, etc...with the other attendants! What a great way to build a relationship with her right from the start! Best of luck to you!

LOL... My dad remarried too and to make me more comfortable my step-mom made me a bridesmaid. So I vote for bridesmaid. If you tell her junior bridesmaid she may feel still not accepted (ie too old for flower girl, not old enough for bridesmaid) So cut the junior off and just make her a bridesmaid.

Good Luck and Congrats!!

bridesmaid (junior or regular) definately

take her shopping - just the 2 of you to look for a dress for her then go somewhere special for lunch

talk about hair styles and make-up for the big day - even if you don't approve of make up this is a special day and a little powder, blush, mascara and lip gloss will be really cool

look at different types of flowers

Make sure she gets invited to any parties that will be appropriate for her to attend

Thumbs up to you for really wanting to get her involved!!

Making her a bridesmaid would be nice. Also have the minister include her in announcing the new family. Like "Present to you Mr. and Mrs. ____ and family" Have her walk the isle back with you and your hubby.

Invite her to any planning events, like a cake tasting. Have her help with making party favors. Anything she would be comfortable in doing would be fine.

Also buy her a necklace or something special and give it to her on the day of the wedding.

Around here you can be a flower girl up to probably 15. Why would she be too old? It's a great job. Ask her what she would like to be. Or she could be a bridesmaid who scatters rose petals (or whatever).