Guys: What is a good amount of time to wait to have sex with a guy you are dating?

Good question! This is something I contend with when I meet someone new that I get involved with. This is hard for you because you really need to find out his intentions, and he has to be honest with you. This takes balls on his part. Here's why:

If you ask him what his intentions are, he has to either say he's simply interested in jumping your bones (short term/long term, doesn't matter) or he has to say he's interested in a committed relationship. Which one he is truly ready for is really a matter of his emotional maturity/ability - and that's a toughy because it reveals a lot. Guys typically don't like being vulnerable to that question. Often, guys will answer based on what they think you want to hear. Whatever it takes to get that heavenly place in between your thighs! ;~)

So here's the deal, it's not a matter of timing - it's a matter of the level of honesty between the both of you. Here's what I suggest, don't just ask him what his intentions are - that's going to cause some discomfort and putting him on the spot like that could earn you a crummy response, or a lie. Hint at your intentions first, see how he responds, then gently ask him what he's looking for "these days". It gives him some space to answer. Also, don't put a lot of stock in the words he uses, watch his body language, listen to the tone of his voice, "read him" - you'll get a strong indication of where he's at.

If he's there to jump your bones, count on it ending quickly once you have sex. The "magic" dies quickly once he's caught his "prey", the chase/thrill of the hunt is just not as fun anymore. This happens to both guys and girls. If he's interested in a relationship, having sex will only draw you two closer. I remember having sex with a girl that I wanted to have a relationship with for the first time, it was funny, I couldn't get enough - five years of not being able to get enough of her!

Hope that helps!

I was engaged for three months before my fiance and I did it...and we'd been living together for six (That's a total of a year and a half)! The right time for you really depends on where the two of you are in a relationship. If both of you think the time is right, then go for it! But, marriage is always a good thing to wait for...I almost wish I had!

Honestly, you will have no idea how hard it is for him to stop after a certain point until you guys know each other better. I used to do that to mine for a while (not on purpose), but then he let me know when it was difficult for him to just put a hault on things!

Until you get married